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mtnbiker3000 Established Member

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mthbiker3000... thank you I needed to hear that! Needed a reality check.

 

Glad I can assist. Helps me to write it out too, cuz I need to hear it just as much as you ;)

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I am constantly thinking about what they are doing together, where they are... it's horrible.

 

 

I do this too except she is not with anyone else (well I hope not) but this is what makes it so hard, its toxic and you need to stop it (and so do I)

 

My counsellor said to put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it everytime you find yourself going there, a physical reminder to stop thinking/analysing

 

works most of the time.... but it is hard but you have to start somewhere and keep trying

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I do this too except she is not with anyone else (well I hope not) but this is what makes it so hard, its toxic and you need to stop it (and so do I)

 

My counsellor said to put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it everytime you find yourself going there, a physical reminder to stop thinking/analysing

 

works most of the time.... but it is hard but you have to start somewhere and keep trying

 

Hard to do but DO NOT fabricate scenarios in your mind. Stay NC and just let it be. You won't know what they are doing and hopefully you won't make things up either. If you break NC, well then you do know what they are doing and this will probably hurt very badly!!

 

BTW - I have been wearing a plain blue silicon wrist band to help me remember this and so many other things as well. No one knows what it is, except for me ;)

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I can really relate to what you're all saying....somehow weekends are the worst time! Everyone else seems to be having fun. I just want to stay indoors but when I do that, I feel so trapped and lonely. Today I seriously feel like I'm going mad....I had a horrid heat rising moment of panic just thinking of the future. I've lost weight, I don't sleep....same as most people on here. I constantly talk to myself saying things like 'come on, you can do this' and then, in the next breath I'm thinking 'oh God, I can't do this'. Whacko!! If I have at least six months of this to look forward to, I don't want to even think about it.

 

I was told this weekend to 'stop feeling sorry for myself'. I want to stop, I really do but I do feel so very down and completely devastated.

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I do this too except she is not with anyone else (well I hope not) but this is what makes it so hard, its toxic and you need to stop it (and so do I)

 

My counsellor said to put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it everytime you find yourself going there, a physical reminder to stop thinking/analysing

 

works most of the time.... but it is hard but you have to start somewhere and keep trying

 

Wow flash back. I did the rubber band thing for a while. Also spent a lot of time redirecing my thoughts and doing positive self talk. All that stuff seemed to help.

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I can really relate to what you're all saying....somehow weekends are the worst time! Everyone else seems to be having fun. I just want to stay indoors but when I do that, I feel so trapped and lonely. Today I seriously feel like I'm going mad....I had a horrid heat rising moment of panic just thinking of the future. I've lost weight, I don't sleep....same as most people on here. I constantly talk to myself saying things like 'come on, you can do this' and then, in the next breath I'm thinking 'oh God, I can't do this'. Whacko!! If I have at least six months of this to look forward to, I don't want to even think about it.

 

I was told this weekend to 'stop feeling sorry for myself'. I want to stop, I really do but I do feel so very down and completely devastated.

 

Hang in there. Get outside. Go to a mall, friends home, ball game, something. I am going through a terrible one myself, now at 2 weeks.... I was head over heels, maybe more than I have ever been in my 50 yrs. I did not eat or sleep well for 12 days. Slowly it has come back.... keep your mind busy and each day gets better. I so much want to make contact. I have refrained. She left me for an old crush, so I know she is at least temporarily happy. It is a roller coaster... the ups will get longer and the downs will get shorter. It will happen.

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I was told this weekend to 'stop feeling sorry for myself'. I want to stop, I really do but I do feel so very down and completely devastated.

 

Screw that!! :mad: No one can tell you how to feel or cope with what you are going through. They may mean well enough, but only you know what you are going through. Feel what you are feeling. You will only hurt yourself more if you supress your feelings...

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I have been in NC for 3 months. I am in a much better state than I was when this all started, but I still have my down times and still think of her daily. What helps most is keeping myself busy through my job, but weekends are the loneliest and hardest. I have a feeling this one will take a LONG time to get over. What sucks is she has loads of support from her family and a ton of friends to help her get through this. Me on the other hand, well I don't have all that. I still miss just about everything we used to have though...

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I have been in NC for 3 months. I am in a much better state than I was when this all started, but I still have my down times and still think of her daily. What helps most is keeping myself busy through my job, but weekends are the loneliest and hardest. I have a feeling this one will take a LONG time to get over. What sucks is she has loads of support from her family and a ton of friends to help her get through this. Me on the other hand, well I don't have all that. I still miss just about everything we used to have though...

 

 

Yeah, women get all the breaks during a BU :p

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Yup, I'm with ya'll!! loneliness is a killer sometimes. It's been 2 months since the BU and NC, I've been good for the most part, but these past days have been pretty crappy. :/

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Im now about 3 hrs into complete NC and its killing me. My ex and i have been on and off again for 3 months and i texted her asking if we are over forever. She said yes its probably best, we keep hurting eachother and ill always have trust issues (mainly from her hooking up with some random after our breakup, and her having feelings for someone she works with). I know im an idiot and shouldnt be with someone like that. She obviously wasnt ready for a serious relationship (shes 22 im 26). She doesnt want to work on gaining my trust or anything. I'm tired of trying to get her back for nothing.

 

I told her to leave me alone and not talk to me. Which im sure she will do since she doesnt want me in the first place. Just so hard cause i moved out to the middle of no where and travel a lot with work and dont get a chance to be with my mates or take part in sport which i gave up to maintain a LDR with her. Hard knowing shes enjoying being a 22 yr old, going out clubbing each weekend and going to festivals and spending time with the guy she left me for probably. Big kick in the guts especially when i use to make her so happy and i was her world. Just hurttts so much and im depressed with my job cause if i want to go home i have to pay 300 buck for a one way flight to be with my mates.

 

Just hurts thinking that she has moved on to something better which i know she has and its a big kick in the guts and makes me feel like **** cause i now have no one to do the things i love to do with.

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I feel what you feel, bad day and night, bored and lonely! I force myself to go out and have fun last weekend. Go out to party, drinks till I dropped but still in my thought is always him running in circle like disco balls in the club I went! Godamn it! it is still hurts:mad:

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