guy123 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 ok so here goes nothing. i been with this girl for almost a year now and throughout that year she convinced me to engage to her and get her pregnant. at first i was very skeptical about the whole situation, but with time i finally engaged to her. everything was going so great then i found out she was pregnant. she seemed pretty happy about the whole situation and i was too because i really love this girl, but recently we argued alot. so it was wednsday that we argued over some dumb stuff and i got mad because she said some hurtfull things to me. i hung the phone up and she tried to call and i didnt pick up because i was furious. after that she sent a text 5 mins later saying she wanted to break up, but at the time i was thinking it was to get my attention because she always say things like that when we get into an argument. so, wednsday past and i didnt talk to her for the rest of the day. now on thursday she sent me a text saying she lost all feeling for me and never wants to talk to me again, still i ignored the text becuase it was our anniversary and i had stuff planned for us both. so i went on her instagram and realized she had another guys initials in her bio. so i contacted her and ask her whats that and she said well when we wasnt talking he was there for her blah blah blah. now on friday i called her just to get some answers and she told me she liked this guy and she dont know if we could get back together but she still loves me. so i asked whats going to happen to the baby she said she will get an abortion. i was very shocked to hear she saying that after all we been through together. so saturday night she called me saying she has nobody to talk to and her now bf is out at the club and she wants to talk to me. at the moment i never felt like being used as a door mat so i declined her offer on talking all night on the phone because i asked if i stay on the phone with you tonight whats going to happen tomorrow, you run back to him. we talked for another 10 mins and she was telling me how he in not like me, he is silent and very shy and some other crap, so i asked why not just cut it off and talk to me, she said she would if she never went out with him on friday and they kissed. the thing is though i love this girl so much and i dont want to loose her, but its like i already lost her to some other guy who a has nothing going for him but some muscles. she text me this morning saying she was sorry for last night that she shouldnt be on the phone with other guys while she is talking to somebody else, so i wished her well with this other guy. i am wondering how could somebody be so cold though. just so willing to throw out all we build up because we had a dumb argument. i really love this girl though and really need her back i am trying the no contact method as of today and see if that will drive her back but i hate waiting because i am not a very patient guy. can someone give me some advice on this and sorry if this is jumbled and has many gramatical errors. i know though that i missed out a few points but i said all the main ones.
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Quite young. She sounds not only immature. But quite lacking in emapthy. Willing to play games with you. Hurt you at any cost. Even if it means terminating the baby. Clearly, she is psycho. No one that loves you, moves on so quickly. Not over a petty arguement. She contacted you out of boredom. She is without regard to you. How many months has she been pregnant? Did you see any test showing she was pregnant? It sounds like she might be playing games to trap you. She's nuttier than my gemma LOL. That's nuts.
TaraMaiden Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 For goodness' sake! Why were you not using contraception?? What a mess! Do you know for a fact she's going to terminate the pregnancy? 1
Author guy123 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 well i kind of know she is crazy for what she said this morning, i think she is going through a depression phase, but what she said that she is not smart and she can see in the summer she will turn a stripper. so i tried to cheer her up and all, but after i told her tht i cant be friends with her and told her not to text back becuase it would hurt just reading her text. she says she is confused and she dont know what to do. also i was there when she took the test and she is about 2 going to 3 months now
aisuru Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Did you go to the doctor to confirm this pregnancy with her? You both have some very grown up decisions to make in a very short amount of time, which is going to be difficult because you're both incredibly unprepared for this. Your first indication that she was crazy, immature, and manipulative, is when she said she wanted to get pregnant with you. Come on dude. You should have ran back then. What do your respective families think of all this? Just realize that whatever communication and relationship you have with her now is NOT going to get better if you have that baby. I really hope you're able to figure this one out.
Author guy123 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 i realized what i did was really dumb, but i dont know what she did to make me fall inlove with her then left me for someone else. it really hurts knowing you lost someone you gave your all to. as far as taking care of the baby i could because i work a good job at bank of america. i was just shocked to all of this.
aisuru Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Did you go to the doctor with her? Have you seen true proof? She sounds manipulative, so just making sure she's not playing the "I'm pregnant" card to mess with you. I really hope you're able to see how she is manipulating you. You're young, so she won't be the first manipulative woman you encounter. The sooner you can learn how to pick up the signs, the better off you'll be. I feel for you. This must be a pretty cruddy experience for you right now.
TaraMaiden Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 3 months is 12 weeks. What's the time limitation for terminations, where you are? She's 19 and you're just about a year older. This is tragic. Setting yourselves up for parenthood at this stage of your lives.... Leave aside the whole mess of having to contend with a baby and all the complications this entails, you guys aren't even 'fully-cooked' yet.... I really don't know what to say. Frankly, when it comes to relationships, she's acting to form. Flighty, confused, in the search of something to liberate and intrigue her, something exciting, different, adventurous.... Except she's possibly pregnant. Ugh.
Author guy123 Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 I texted her this morning telling her, i hope she does well on her big presentation and miss her. Her reply was " you too and i did great". I really dont even feel the need to reply. I feel like judt cutting all contact with her. Is that the thing to di
Chi townD Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I agree with Todd with saying that you can't love someone and move on to someone as quickly as she did. Therefore, if she keeps the kid, I would demand a DNA test when the kid is born. You might be getting played here.
Keenly Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Your girl is doing the same thing to you that she did with me. She gets off on playing with your feelings. She doesnt feel anything because she is a sociopath. She will do things to hurtuyou, make you mad, try to see how you react. You didn't talk to her for one day and she went and got with some.one else. That's how psychotically demanding she is of your attention. She will never give you the love you seek.
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