I got with my ex at a party

[Sarah89]

I feel so, so, so stupid.

 

Basically, I went to a house party with friends and my ex was there. Baring in mind its been 8 months since we broke up and we've become close friends since then. But towards the end of the night he was really flirty with me and we kissed (I was quite drunk at the time but he was relatively sober).

 

He told me he missed me a little and I told him the same, he was holding me like we were a couple and calling me 'beautiful'. Baring in mind he was relatively sober!

 

He came round my house 2 times about 3 weeks ago and he told me he wanted to kiss me and have sex, but obviously I didn't imply I wanted that so he kept quiet.

 

But at this party we ended up having sex. I rang him today and he told me 'it was just a bit of fun' after saying so many things to me and misleading me. I feel stupid, really stupid.

 

He told me that we all say stupid things when we're drunk, but he was so close to being sober, I don't understand.

 

I feel used. It's such a nasty thing to do, messing with someone's feelings. I'd started to feel like I still liked him and maybe things could happen again between us as he implied that these past 3 weeks and at the party but now the party incident happened he doesn't wanna know. He says he doesn't want a relationship at the moment, which is fair enough. But don't lead girls on, especially not your ex!

 

What should I do? I see him everyday at college as well.

[lozzy94]

I feel like my response is going to be extremely cliched, just warning you!

 

Okay so If i was in your position I would be trying to look my best all the time and just slightly giving him the cold shoulder, enough for him to notice but not enough for him to say anything. It won't make you feel better but it might make him feel worse for leading you on which is something he should not have done. If you end up in a situation like that again I suggest you say you are not interested because it's not fair that he treats you like that.