Elvis99 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Not heard from her in 3 months. Still devastated. Help! First time here. I've read lots so thought i post and get advice. I met this wonderful girl about 2 years ago thru FB (we old school mates). At the time I was done with my separation with my ex wife. She was in a very unhappy common law relationship. Long story short we developed am amazing friendship. We both had kids, both had so much in common....well I was opposite to her CL IN every way. He is abusive (mentally and physically ) to her and the kids for years. So she was very smitten with me early and told me she loved me early on. My heart was for the first time in my many years of marriage and dating "stolen" by this girl. I have never been so in love. She put me on a pedestal, told me how she wanted to marry me, I was her dream man...and well I took all she said as real. So we started to plan out life together. It was magic. She would tell all her friends about me, introduce me, basically show me off like a trophy. It felt great. But as the relationship went on and I became more committed to our dream I noticed her starting to change. She started to hide me more....where as before she did not care if her CL found out...I became her secret. Our fights always revolved around her leaving, nothing we had not discussed before .... but when I brought up later in the relationship , I was met with anger. She would get mad and told me I was being pushy and needy etc. but truth is I was just sticking to our plan. I never understood why she changed so much. Fast forward 6 months ago. I got a house for us 5 min from she lives (she was very happy). So she would always tell me she is leaving him....when I had doubts and ask her "ok what's the plan" she would again tell me off. Something just did not sit right with me. I had done so much to show her I was committed to her and move forward with our life...and the more I did the more she backed off. So 3 months ago we got into another fight about her leaving him...and I never heard from her again. I texted, called, wrote her a letter. She ignored it all. I was worried, I was scared I was heartbroken. This girl was the girl of my dreams. And she just went from loving me to acting as if I was dead. My question is how can someone just disappear and cut off a person who gave her the world and treated her better then anyone ever has? 3 months of NC from her I never got any closure. Just silence. Please help me understand why she did this. I'm a single dad with 2 kids and I have lost all my happiness and everyday it just gets worse. Why do I love a girl so much still who treated me so horrible in the end. Thank you.
ViresSanctity Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 She left you cold turkey and sucked the chemicals out of your brain. That usually is a warning from the doctors when they prescribe you any type of meds. It could be fatal quitting cold turkey. You know your experience at the beginning with your xAP sounds almost like how mines is going... we also have plans to live together and my getting my own place. That's my fear that she won't go through with it. I hope you find your answers and thanks for sharing.
dumbdidi Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 :eek:Sorry I'm new I know this is not the place to ask but hoping someone will answer me... How do I post my own question something is bothering me quite a while now and was hoping someone could tell me their thoughts on a weird dream I had...lol but don't even know how to ask where to post...I am writing this in a slight hope that someone will tell me how to post my own Question via cellphone..this is my first time on a forum so please don't be angry for I really don't know how this works. Thanx Didi
Author Elvis99 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 I'm not sure what you mean about sucking chemicals from my brain? Or what you meant about why drs prescribe meds?
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