emily22202 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 He broke up with me one week ago. He emailed me last night saying that he loves me and cares about me and is willing to be friends. I told him no. That i cannot be friends with someone i love. Do you think i should email him again?. Maybe he is kinda wanting to get back together. because he never usually responds but be did last night. I want to email him telling him just that i miss him.
OwlSoul Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 NO. If he will want to be back with you, he will tell it. You said you love him, he was the dumper. So what is the problem in telling straightaway to you that he made a mistake and etc.? No excuses. My current ex is very proud and not really emotional to admit his faults. But he did say straightaway that he wants to be back. We were not friends prior to this, just light-contacting and keeping the distance.
Author emily22202 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 So don't contact him at all huh?. I guess your right. If he wants me back he Will tell me.
OwlSoul Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 So don't contact him at all huh?. I guess your right. If he wants me back he Will tell me. I am not saying contact or not contact. I am saying that you're probably wrong taking his friendship thing as a sign of getting back together. To contact or not to contact depends on you totally. Just be perceptive and try to feel what is better to do/ acceptable in your case. For instance, I got back with my previous ex after 1.5 months of NC, when I moved on and got back my ruined self-esteem. I felt it is better to stay NC because of the way he was behaving and communicating (cold, trying to escape conversations, short in answers and etc.). I was not feeling comfortable talking to him, and was feeling it will hurt me more if I'll stay in touch. So welp, NC. I'm dating my current ex (I do not think we're back as a couple yet, until the certain level of trust and emotional comfort is gained back). I went to NC for a week or so, then started light-contacting when I realized that talking to him is not hurting me that bad and I can make some progress. It is very intuitional I think. Sometimes it is better to step back as well. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 I am assuming that you are new here Read, read and read some more... And you will discover that him asking to be friends is: 1. To ease his guilt of hurting you, making a mistake, etc... 2. 'Cake-eating'. He doesn't want you as his GF, but still wants you around as some comfort, soft landing, booty call, etc... IT IS OVER! Why would you want to be with someone who will keep you around on the back burner? You deserve better. You will find better. Move on!!!
Author emily22202 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 I lost it. I just called him 6 times. he didn't answer of course. Then i just texted and emailed him telling him to call me. Uggggg I screwed up!
aisuru Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 NO Contact. Find anything to occupy your time but calling him or emailing him. Pushing at him will cause him to pull away more. Right now, your priority should be you. Getting your emotions in check. Step by step, you will feel better and less desperate to chase him.
Author emily22202 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 I keep calling because i deserve a call. He broke up with me thru text message. What kind of man does that. He is to much of a wimp to do it in my face or atlease over the phone.
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 I keep calling because i deserve a call. He broke up with me thru text message. What kind of man does that. He is to much of a wimp to do it in my face or atlease over the phone. Well, there ya go. Why do you even care about such a 'wimp'?? M o v e O n!!!!
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