cutiecall Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Hello All! I have spent alot of time reading LoveShack so I thought it was time to post something. LoveShack can be addictive. My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. It was the most painful relationship of my life. He is 46 and I'm 43. Well our relationship was a year and half on and off. You would think we would know better. He is divorced with 4 kids and I have never been married. I have had several relationships and was engaged. To be honest this is the first time I was in love- the other relationship they were more into me and they pursued me alot. I'm embarrased to admit that we broke up about about 5 or 6 times. He broke up with me all times except for one. He was the master of hot and cold. Very painful. He would get very close and then close himself off. I realize he has his own issues bc of divorce that have nothing to do with me. We went a 6 month stretch that was amazing though and I feel like our love deepening but he would always stop it. Anyways, trying to make this not too long. This last time was brutal. He convinced to get back together with him. He said he wanted to spend the next 30 years with me and 30 days later broke up with me. Ugggghhhh. It has been over a month and I'm moving on. I even went on some dates and I starting a new job tomorrow. So right now I'm about 85%-90% - in a couple of weeks I want to be 100% over. I blocked his phone and his e-mails go to trash. I'm ready to move on. Please, no mean comments. I'm sensitive!
DontBreakEven Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 well that's awesome that you are so far along in your recovery. it's been over a month for me in a somewhat similar situation and i am at about 5%. and i'm okay with that. but it sounds like you know you want to move on and you are definitely on your way there. that's awesome!
Author cutiecall Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 Hello, I think the reason I'm about 90% is because we broke up so many times before. The first time we broke up it took me longer. Hang in there! You will get there.
youngnlove89 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Hello, I think the reason I'm about 90% is because we broke up so many times before. The first time we broke up it took me longer. Hang in there! You will get there. Me too cutiecall...I was in a relationship with a man off and on for 2 years! The first time was treacherous, but every time we broke up after that it got easier. It has become the "norm" and I'm used to it. Still doesn't make it completely easy and I still love him and care for him, but I'm more than okay. I feel like if I have a good 3 months of NC then I will be just dandy and over him. I don't see it taking that long. But I still haven't had the strength to block him because it seems so final and I'm afraid I'll wonder if he did try to contact me or not. How did you do it?
shiver23 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Good for you! I'm pretty much over my ex (I still have the little longing twinges occasionally) but it was a mutual decision, so I had time to adjust to it. We both knew our relationship was ending about three months before we broke up. I wish you luck in your new dating endeavours.
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