seahawker64 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 I'm very curious to hear if some of you have gone into reading books to try and learn about your breakups and what you can change about yourself. If so what's your favorite book on the topic of self help and or breakups? I'm doing everything within my power to come out of my breakup a better guy and heal well. Hitting the Gym, reading, massive journaling and spending some time alone. I don't want to date right now. Blocked her on FB but unfortunately we have mutual friends so I hear little snippets and she is playing the "I'm so happy I'm s******* rainbows right now". Obviously, I'm still on her mind or she would be complete radio silence like I am. About 72 days NC right now and it is helping but I still have the emotional weight I'm carrying. Working like hell to fix that, but I believe only time will get that taken care of. This is a b**** to deal with!!
DontBreakEven Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Susan Piver's "The Wisdom of a Broken Heart" is a good one. Susan Anderson's "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" is another. Both these books will help explain the whirlwind and magnitude of emotions you are going through are totally normal and okay, and gives tips on what to do about them. You may have to order off Amazon. You sound like a good guy and are on the right track. A huge generalization on my part, but most guys like to rebound. I think it's good that you recognize that you don't want to date right now. I'm right there with ya. The thought of dating literally makes me sick right now, actually.
DavidSoBased Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 To me, Loveshack is a collection of several books. This site has been more help to anything I found using the Google search engine. My only regret is not knowing about this site at the beginning of the break up. If only I had, I would have saved myself from so much pain. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 OP - I'm of the same mentality as you. I desperately want to come out (soon) better than I went in If you haven't yet tried and have the means, I would suggest therapy. Has been very helpful to me! 1
Author seahawker64 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 OP - I'm of the same mentality as you. I desperately want to come out (soon) better than I went in If you haven't yet tried and have the means, I would suggest therapy. Has been very helpful to me! Absolutely agree. I started counseling not too long after the breakup. Not too sure if she is helping me though. The real only advice she has given me is I'm allowed to think about it for a maximum of 1/2 a day. Yea, that's not really working....lol. I actually was going to tell her this week at my appt. I came here to work on dealing with this break-up and being assigned a time limit is nothing I can do yet so she better let me start talking...
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Absolutely agree. I started counseling not too long after the breakup. Not too sure if she is helping me though. The real only advice she has given me is I'm allowed to think about it for a maximum of 1/2 a day. Yea, that's not really working....lol. I actually was going to tell her this week at my appt. I came here to work on dealing with this break-up and being assigned a time limit is nothing I can do yet so she better let me start talking... If ya aren't liking this one. Try another... I got lucky and really 'click' with my therapist. I picked a woman on purpose and it's working really well. Good luck!!!
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 If ya aren't liking this one. Try another... I got lucky and really 'click' with my therapist. I picked a woman on purpose and it's working really well. Good luck!!! ** BTW - Didn't pick a woman for that reason you sicko's!!! Just think I can relate more is all...
Seachelle1 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I chose a very logical, together therapist. I think that's really what I need. She advised me to practice going to a safe place in my head, so I'm gonna go on a 10-mile hike and work on my novel outline which doubles as safe for me. Uncomplicated, literary and workable. No strings attached to real life.
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