electricjw Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 So I met this girl about 2 weeks ago, and we have been txting a lot. Like the past 3 or 4 days, we've been talking on the phone for like hrs, 2-4hrs at a time. Well we had our first date yesterday, we went bowling with her kids, and 2 siblings, then went back to her house (stays with mom), and played pool, and talked a lot. Well by the end of the night, I was planning on going in for the kiss, but I was just never able too. She ended up giving me a hug before I left. I shoulda tried to kiss her on the hug, but I was just too nervous. Other than no kiss, I thought everything went well. But I dont know how she feels about it. I've been beating myself up all morning, b/c I didnt try to kiss her. Also another thing that was working against me, is that she is way taller than me. She is 6ft, and I'm like 5'6, and I think this was making me more nervous, b/c I kept thinkin of how I would kiss her, since we both were standing towards the end of the night. Oh yeah, i picked her up at 4pm, and left at like 1:45am, if that matters. She also has told me stuff that, she said, she hasn't told anyone before. A little background info about me: honestly, its probably been like 3-4 yrs since I've been on a date, before last night. I've never had an actual GF before. I dont really want to tell her all this, b/c it does seem weird for someone my age (late 20s). So am I over thinking this? Usually by this time of the day, she would have replied to my txts, but nothing today so far. If I can just get a 2nd date with her, I AM gonna go for the kiss. I just hope by not kissing her on the 1st date didnt mess anything up, b/c I really like her. Also any advice on dating a woman taller than you?
soccerrprp Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 There are those who will tell you that your lack of initiative may have hurt your chances. Rubbish. I had a first date once where I didn't get a proper kiss and it turned into a relationship that I will cherish for all time. Anyway, I am less concerned about that than your height difference and the hug. I'm 5'6, date regularly, but I never seek out ladies more than an inch or two taller than myself. It makes life so much easier. I hope it works out, but be confident regarding your height. If and when you do get the chance to kiss her, make certain you're in a position where it will be obvious that height makes a difference, ie. do it while sitting, lying down, etc. It sounds like she "likes" you, but as you are aware, what the extent of that like is is anyone's guess right now. Wait for a reply. Don't send anymore texts/messages. Just sit back and wait. The last thing you want to do is look desperate/clingy. Good luck.
RedRobin Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 OP, I for one, am put off by men who try to kiss me on the first date. Especially by someone I hardly know. 2
Author electricjw Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 (edited) To me, the height difference isn't a problem, more like a challenge at times. But I'm more disappointing in not going for the kiss. I've actually had a girl tell me to, "grow some balls and just go for it" bc I didnt kiss her that night. This girl isn't nothing like the other one that said that, but I just feel like that I shoulda tried to kiss her. I guess I've had issues w/ trusting women in the past, so maybe thats why I want to take it slow, so I wont get hurt again. And yeah, I'm not going to txt her back until she replies, I dont want to bug her. OP, I for one, am put off by men who try to kiss me on the first date. Especially by someone I hardly know. So if me and her were talkin for about a week, then finally went on our first date, you still would rather wait?? I hope she is the same way as you. I just want to be respectful to her, since she has had terrible bfs in the past. Edited May 5, 2013 by electricjw
RedRobin Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 So if me and her were talkin for about a week, then finally went on our first date, you still would rather wait?? I hope she is the same way as you. I just want to be respectful to her, since she has had terrible bfs in the past. To me, talking for a week is not enough time for me to feel comfortable with a kiss. That's enough time for me to feel like we'd have a good time on a date and have some mutual interests... That's it. It is important that you learn how to take cues from the woman you are with... She gave you a hug... That's a nice show of affection. See how things go next time you see her. 2
soccerrprp Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 oh, I want to emphasize that I always ask on the first date and only if i think there has been chemistry.
Divasu Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 At this stage, there are other ways you can show her you're interested in her romantically besides placing your tongue inside her mouth... Not kissing on a first date is fine. If you have been dating for several weeks, well, that might change things a bit. She'll start to wonder about things and try to define the relationship. You're no where near that stage yet, so, next time you're together and you feel the urge, you can lean in and kiss her. Hesitant at first, knowing what you wanted. Lean in, tilt your head, bring her body in closer...Lightly clutch her face as you stare at her lips your mouths draw in closer until your lips are touching. Start slowly...build momentum...
BluEyeL Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 I didn't think you are supposed to kiss on the first date. I only did that once.
Author electricjw Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 Thx for the advice. I finally talked to her and she said she had fun, etc. I guess i was over thinking it. Another thing, she told me before that it was 7 months before she had sex in her 5 yr relationship with an ex. So I def dont mind going slow.
sillyanswer Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I didn't think you are supposed to kiss on the first date. I only did that once. I don't think there's much of a rule either way! Well, some people have rules that it's bad and some that it's required, but really it should happen (only) if both the desire and opportunity are there. 1
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