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How does NC work, when he isnt calling me either and is with someone else

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My fiancé left me for another woman, moved in with her and has blocked me from all contact and social sites. He doesn't call or try to reach out. I still love him and want him back and my son misses his so much. I don't know what to do all I do is cry and physically feel sick.

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I read your other thread.

Incredible.

Tell me - this accident - did he receive an injury to the head?

Was he unconscious for any period of time?

 

Because as I see it (based purely on what you have posted) after his recovery is when 'the rot set in'.....

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I was cheated on and left for her. He been NC with me since the BU. The next day he made her his girlfriend. Ouch... talk about a slap in my face!

 

Remain NC with him. Guilt or no guilt, let him deal with the decision he made! Oh yes it hurts bad, everybody on LS getting "breadcrumbs" while you and I get SILENCE from our exes. Let's me know he really didn't give a crap about me. Your control is NC. That to me is the best revenge, it's my way of saying "You probably want me to bother the hell outta you, but I won't. Live your life and I will live my life even better without you!"

 

Who knows what is going on. He probably so in love with his new girl, but that's my way of looking at it. It hurts so bad!!

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yes he was un conscious, he had a mini stroke while driving, blacked out and hit a wall. 13 broken bones and several surgeries. I just feel I want to call and beg him back and remind him of everything we had, I feel NC just gives him all the time to fall deeper in love with her.

I just lay here and cry and pray he calls me or reaches out somehow, then I think if he ever calls how can I ignore the call when I want him so much

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In that case, I think he's been mentally affected and he's behaving completely out of character.

In my opinion (and I am not a doctor, psychologist or anything else to do with mental health, I have to emphasise this) it's possible the knock on the head has adversely affected his thinking.

 

It happens.

It may not be his 'fault' exactly - he may not be able to help himself....

 

One course of action I would suggest is actually to speak to the doctors who dealt with him.

They will not be able to give you any confidential facts - Patient confidentiality is big, and you're not a relative - but maybe they could speak to you in general terms and advise you if such a thing is possible.

 

But I would strongly doubt it's reversible, however.....

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I have thought about the same things. Also the girl he is with is 34, he is 51 and he from what I have heard acts different now, trying to be younger. I just don't know what to do, do I try and somehow reach him? if he does call do I still ignore him? I really want him to not love her and realize what he left and come back. sad and desperate I know. I also need to get myself together, I have lost 15lbs in 3 weeks because I cant eat, I don't sleep, its not fair to my son because all I do is cry.

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If this is down to a mental affliction, there is nothing you can do, about it.

Appealing to his 'better self' won't get through to him - because that aspect may no longer exist.

 

Speak to medics, if only to give yourself peace of mind - you need to move forward, because while his change of character may be due to the accident/stroke he had - your affliction is emotional - your emotions are Not Who You Are.

 

You have every right to be sad - but you CAN control the portions of your life you permit to be affected.

 

If you know your behaviour is unfair - address the issue, and decide what to do.

 

You control you.

You are not controlled by some outside force.

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Hmm.. I don't know but this is my thought. Since he had a near death experience, I think he's just trying to live life to the fullest. I guess he wants more excitement in his life and left you for a younger woman, is trying to be younger, and will probably do some things that would most likely be on a bucket list type of deal.

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