targaryen Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 I met an interesting girl just a week after the break up. At first I wasn't interested (was too heart broken) in her, but I continued meeting her in group settings through friends and developed an interest in her. I hadn't seen her in two weeks but yesterday she was at the same bar and I was smitten; at one point we were sitting together (just us) but I didn't ask her out. So today I called her, having decided to do it, but she didn't pick up. 5 minutes later she texted me back saying 'hey, sorry I missed your call, what's up?' I want to tell her to meet me tonight or tuesday night for drinks, but not sure if i should text back or call her up again at this stage. What do you think? PS: I'm not sure if she's interested in me that way. She's very shy and reserved, and all I have to go on is a couple of moments of eye contact yesterday.
BluEyeL Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Text her back and say I'd like to ask you something, when is the best time to call? Then ask her out over the phone. 3
jeni4566 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 You're a dude. Ask her out! Text her something like "I want to see you, just us. When is good?" 1
SuperGeek Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Texting filters out emotions and I want to detect those emotions either good or bad. Especially during the first 1-5 dates at least. My ability to continue to pursue a woman depends on her interest level in me. If her interest level drops below a certain point I usually lose interest. In person is the best form of communication, followed up by talking on the phone, email, and finally texting. The more emotion that is visible during interaction the better. This is just me though. Everyone is different
Author targaryen Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 Thanks, I followed the first reply advice "Text her back and say I'd like to ask you something, when is the best time to call? Then ask her out over the phone." She answered, "I'm available, you can call me now" I let 15 mins go by (I was packing for a trip) and then rang her up. I told her I had fun talking to her yesterday and I was going out for drinks tonight and thought she could join me. She seemed surprised and said 'tonight? sounds good..but, I'm preparing for a tomorrow's field trip and not sure if I'll have time"..I replied saying 'got it. if you want i'm going to this place after 9pm, let me know if you want to join.' she gave a neutral 'sure, thanks..bye' kinda response. So, did I blow it? I have a feeling I won't hear from her today :/ I read somewhere online that I should have offered a 2nd option (for example Tuesday) rather than asking her to meet me in a few hours. Should I do that? But I don't want to call her up again 1
BluEyeL Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 Oh, yes, you didn't handle that quite well. Better don't ask for dates the same day, because people might have other plans. You should have offered a second option. I suggest wait one day and ask her out again for a few days in advance. "Is x day good? What about y? What about z?" She said "sounds good" so I think you have a chance. 1
todreaminblue Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Thanks, I followed the first reply advice "Text her back and say I'd like to ask you something, when is the best time to call? Then ask her out over the phone." She answered, "I'm available, you can call me now" I let 15 mins go by (I was packing for a trip) and then rang her up. I told her I had fun talking to her yesterday and I was going out for drinks tonight and thought she could join me. She seemed surprised and said 'tonight? sounds good..but, I'm preparing for a tomorrow's field trip and not sure if I'll have time"..I replied saying 'got it. if you want i'm going to this place after 9pm, let me know if you want to join.' she gave a neutral 'sure, thanks..bye' kinda response. So, did I blow it? I have a feeling I won't hear from her today :/ I read somewhere online that I should have offered a 2nd option (for example Tuesday) rather than asking her to meet me in a few hours. Should I do that? But I don't want to call her up again if a guy asked me out and i was interested in him but had other plans i myself would suggest sorry cant make it today......how about this day ......but thats me......try again with another date make it a week on if she cant fit you in a week from now.....i would question her interest....deb
nerd Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 surely the fact that she didnt call back and just texted shows Low interest? Some shy people just really hate the phone and would much rather text. You don't know her well enough to know if she's one of those.
TheGuard13 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Texting isn't lame...it's the return of letter writing, and thus, a return to romance. It's a perfectly valid form of communication these days.
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