ascendotum Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Your review of date 6 at his place didn't exactly escalate things along like you wanted. Disappointing in terms of you walking away feeling really good with this guy. I was feeling like saying, start going following up your other options and don't get your hopes up over this guy, but given he sent you that text expressing his nervousness & inexperience, I say give it a bit more time if you really like him. My first instinct is to say that he doesn't have to be nervous and that we should keep being open about these things. I say reassure him that there is no need to be nervous. Maybe you could push things into the open by saying something like..You weren't sure if he was nervous or if he did not really like you because he didn't seem to enjoy it when you got close to him. or Is he going to be too nervous to kiss you. or Is that the reason why you have not made a move on me yet. or if we kiss will that just make you more nervous or relaxed. or something to push him to pick up the pace.
Author the_entertainer1 Posted May 9, 2013 Author Posted May 9, 2013 Your review of date 6 at his place didn't exactly escalate things along like you wanted. Disappointing in terms of you walking away feeling really good with this guy. I was feeling like saying, start going following up your other options and don't get your hopes up over this guy, but given he sent you that text expressing his nervousness & inexperience, I say give it a bit more time if you really like him. My first instinct is to say that he doesn't have to be nervous and that we should keep being open about these things. I say reassure him that there is no need to be nervous. Maybe you could push things into the open by saying something like..You weren't sure if he was nervous or if he did not really like you because he didn't seem to enjoy it when you got close to him. or Is he going to be too nervous to kiss you. or Is that the reason why you have not made a move on me yet. or if we kiss will that just make you more nervous or relaxed. or something to push him to pick up the pace. Thanks, good advice. We got past that, and had arranged to see eachother tonight, to go out for dinner after work. But he texted me this morning to say that he'd come down with a bad cold, had lost his voice, and wasn't going to work - he suggested that we reschedule to next week, because he doesn't want to infect me, and then apologised. I was a little bit annoyed and considered the idea that he may have been blowing me off. But I think that all the other 'signs' (which I find a bit hard to read because he is so inexperienced) suggest that he is definitely interested in me. Later on today I texted him to confirm tickets for an event that we had talked about going to. It's for my (guy) friend's birthday, in a month's time, and he said he still wanted to go. Would a guy do that if he didn't like a girl?
ltjg45 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 I don't see anything scary about a simple conversation about where you both stand in the relationship. It shouldn't be anything complicated or protracted. Have you made any moves to kiss him? It is. Don't ask me why but those kinds of talks does unnerve quite a few males. Esp. when a male hasn't been physical enough to match his interest level to her and she knows it. I'm the same way. I could be sexually attracted to her so bad I would bang her in public but I'm also too afraid of doing any more than putting my hand on her let alone actually kissing her on the cheek. 1
Ed the 3rd Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Wow I wish somebody brought me chips and dip! Joking aside I'd say stop dating him. Its not just the fact that he is not making a move but also the fact that he does not seem to care for your amazing generosity.
mn311601 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Harsh, dude is inexperienced and hasn't made a move yet, so everyone wants her to dump him. Hell, if this is what happens to the inexperienced, I shouldn't even try.
hudson701 Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Do you see yourself having a long-term, fulfilling relationship with this wallflower and being the mother of his children? Exactly. Stop wasting your time and his time. Move on and find someone who will appreciate you. Life really is too short.
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