Tink19 Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 We dated a few months over a year. He's 17 and I'm 18. He got really busy with his sport and things were getting tougher. He said he wasn't ready/mature for a relationship and doesn't know when he will be. We had one or 2 days together a week and he said he thought I'd get mad if he hung with friends on those days instead of me. He never gave me a change to hang with his friends so I don't like how he said I wasn't interested in hanging with them. He didn't like how I didn't want to hang in groups but I never got alone time with him so the times I did see him, I wanted to just be with him. He was leaving all summer for a summer job and we agreed a couple months ago we'd stay together. I guess this was the main reason he broke it off because he didn't want to leave me alone all summer like that. He didn't tell me this but he told his family that. I don't think he had the guts to say some stuff to me. He told them he thought I was clingy and high maintenance. Which I and few others think that's bull because he didn't know how to be a boyfriend and it just seemed that way on his side. He knew he wasn't a great bf and he said I deserved more time from someone else. I probably just seemed too much for him because he was busy and stuff. I miss us and I don't know if still cares for me and just wanted to break up because of the summer thing. I can't change him not being ready but I want to change his negative thoughts on me if that played in with the breakup. I went above and beyond for him and he knew that. We both liked each other but I hate this change. How can I make him miss me or at least want to be friends? He said he'll see what happens on being friends and we're not talking right now. It's so awkward. He didn't say anything to me yesterday when I saw him and I can't just pretend nothing happened. I'll see him around and his sister is my best friend. Help?
OwlSoul Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 You're asking the question which is not answered even by professionals who deal with couples (sometimes seeing a therapist just makes it worse). In my point of view, there is no such thing as a fear of commitment if the person likes you enough. And noone would dump us if we'd be good enough. That's how the nature works. So, using this logic, it is possible to get back with the ex by sorting out the issues the person seen in you.
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