adore.mii Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 So, I've been dating my ex for the past two months. We broke up last August and talked everyday after the initial breakup. I moved back to school, about two hours away from him and we'd see each other every other weekend (I was commuting to see him). We never really talked about getting back together and by December, I was tired of being unofficial. I gave him an ultimatum that we would either work on getting back together or go no contact until we are ready to be real friends. Needless to say, we did not work on getting back together, and he did not honor my request to stop contacting. The longest we'd go without contacting was four days. By the end of February, we were back to talking everyday. He'd come to see me at school; he'd report how much he misses me, blah blah...the works. By the end of March, I'd gotten a job interview in Phoenix and he was very supportive, even though he gave me the guilt trip/mindf*ck of "how will I see you if you move to Arizona. I went to the interview in AZ, but did not get the job. I did, however, accept a job offer in the city that he lives in. It is also my hometown. Everything appeared to be falling into place and a week before I moved back to my hometown (his city), he said that it was going to be so nice having me there. He even came to my college graduation, took me out to eat, and gave me a graduation gift the weekend before the move. So, I moved back home this past Sunday (temporarily until I get my new place), and began my job this past Monday. I talked to him Sunday evening, went to spend the evening with him at his house on Monday, and talked to him Tuesday evening before bed. On Wednesday, he sent me a text that said he was tired and that his job and his social life is stressing him out. He also said that he was going to stop being social for a while. I told him that I understood. Of course, I thought that he meant that he would not be hanging out at the bars and going out with the guys. He called that same night to tell me that he had finally gotten a four-day weekend but had to cancel his plans of going up to his Alma mater this weekend because he needed to rest. Thursday morning, he texted me and called me with little chit chat about work. Thursday evening, he called TWICE and we mused ourselves with our usual chit chat and banter. Friday: NOTHING FROM HIM Today: I sent him a text at noon that simply said: Heyy" and he replied immediately with "What's up" And that's it. So, someone please help me interpret what the eff is going on! I'm confused as to why alllllll of a sudden when I return to town, his social life is overbearing? Was this his way of "dumping" me or letting me know that my move would not impact our status? Or is he legitimately tired/stressed from the job? Should I contact him and clarify his intentions? Or play it cool and move on? Any feedback is appreciated!
Author adore.mii Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 I thought I'd also add that he sometimes calls me "baby" and "sweetie", but lately he's been referring to me as his "homegirl".
Author adore.mii Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 (edited) Are you sleeping with him? Uh oh. Yes I am... Edited May 5, 2013 by adore.mii Misspelling
Author adore.mii Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 Any more feedback would be greatly appreciated!
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