mwilson1985 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 (edited) We're in our 20s, in school, and have been attracted to each other for a few months. We talk occasionally and she gets kind of nervous - I think she even avoids me because she gets nervous. At times our eyes have met and neither can speak :-) She's been seeing somebody for about 6 months, an artsy guy. I think we could be great, but I dont push for women in this situation, and I do have other options. We're leaving for the summer and I won't be in school next fall. We were at an event recently (she was standing like 4 inches from me staring at me the whole time) and she asked if I was going to be around at all next year. I'll still be in the area, just not at school. Should I – -Try to catch up with her in person before we leave, which I may not have the chance to -Message her and tell her to have a nice summer -Message her and tell her to have a great summer and if she has time in the fall it would be great for us to meet up because I think we would get along. -Something else I know email/text/messaging is kind of lame, but she gets nervous and all I'd like her to be able to just look at and think about it. It's good if a woman chases you a bit, and I think I'm a good catch and don't want to come to easily. So should I give her the responsibility of contacting me when she's back in town? She might have broken up with this guy by then, since I'm pretty sure they will be long distance over the summer. Edited May 4, 2013 by mwilson1985 .
Author mwilson1985 Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 Well, Im not really trying to actively break them up, just to let her know I hadnt forgotten her or anything - to hint that I might have interest in her, so that when she's back in town in a few months she can get in touch with me and I would be likely to meet up with her. Just something for her to think about as a possible option over the summer when she's probably not going to be around this other dude too much.
Author mwilson1985 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 Thanks - I hear what your saying, I just don't have her number! I thought an email (which Iv communicated with her before - or maybe a facebook message) it would just be a nice gesture to demonstrate I might have more interest than she thinks - but not come on too strong. Especially since we are all taking off for 3 months. Thing is, I like her, and Im sure she likes me. Im not really looking to make a lot of progress, but send a little message (literally and figuratively)
Author mwilson1985 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 No, sorry if I miscommunicated – I dont think it would be possible for us to be friends because to be honest we're too attracted to each other. I just want to give the hint that I'm not just some guy in school who just says hi and jokes to her. Just so she knows it's a possible option without coming out directly and saying that if they break up I'd like to take her out. I could say that, but I'm not sure it really makes sense since we're all taking off for a few months. Just an effective hint that she may or may not respond too.
Author mwilson1985 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 Yeah that could work. I read in one of your other posts that you like to do the pursuing. That works sometimes with me, but sometimes not - not sure it would in this case, so I dont want to do too much chasing. The point is, should I try to start getting to know her better in the next couple weeks before we leave town by initiating new communication that clearly demonstrates interest, or just a subtle but effective message that I want to pick up communication when she gets back. If I get her number and start calling her, I'm honastly thinking thats too much and might complicate things, especially since shes seeing this other dude.
Author mwilson1985 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 Yeah, its tricky. Theres risk in whatever you do. My goal is to be able to pick up a conversation with her in the fall, and have us meet up - at school or out somewhere. People can get very defensive if you come on too strong so I think a simple message is appropriate - and keep a presence when she's away, even if its something as silly as commenting on a Facebook post or something over the summer. I want to let her know I probably have some interest, so she can feel comfortable taking a step on it if she wants when she's back in the fall. Of course things could change, but thats the best plan I think!
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