waytogo Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Hi all, read some today and the question came to mind. If a person came to you with 'spouse wows' but lead you down a river of wows, why protect him or her? For anyone who's familiar with my previous case, I don't, even while feeling unsure and horrible about it, say nothing as the person is still a good friend to me. All we were ever meant to be. I so wish we had never crossed that line. For whatever reason you would have, the spouse would want to know. Why should a person be using another's time and effort, possibly finances as we'll as yours for selfish validation. If someone has crossed you so bad, why not tell? Any self-respecting person would want to know what was behind what was already figured out-something not right
LBlanc Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Because they want someone to agree with what they feel. They want sympathy. They want someone to feel sorry for them. They want someone on their side. They want someone to tell them he/she is right and the SO is wrong. They want someone to tell them he/she is the good guy/girl, and that SO is the bad guy/girl. If they tell their SO what they truly feel, the SO will just bite his/her head off. Or worst; point out his/her own faults. People would go to great lengths to avoid their own faults being thrown back at their face.
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