babybear Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Ok, this is the situation: I have a wonderful bf. We've been together 2 yrs...with ups and downs of course. I had kinda dated someone prior to meeting my bf, but after meeting my bf, there was nobody else. Then, a year into it, we had a HUGE fight, and went our separate ways. During that time, I ran into the guy I dated before, and really started to fall for him! We totally clicked...he made me really happy...but I wanted to take it really slow, so I told him he could date other ppl and so could I, although I was not. Then, I run into my ex-bf at a mutual friend's b-day dinner 3-4 months later. I couldn't deny that something was still there...and after some time, we got back together. It was hard b/c I really cared about the other guy, but easy b/c we had so much history. So, now it's been almost a yr....and I still think about the other guy!!! We hang out now and again, and we don't do anything, but I ALWAYS wonder what could have happened. When we go out for coffee or whatever, I feel the connection immediately, and then when I see my bf, I feel that connection too. The other guy has dated other girls too, but when we're together I feel like we're picking up right where we left off. Now, I am not trying to string anyone along or play with 2 ppl at the same time...I'm just wondering if maybe this is normal to feel about an ex, or if this means I should be on my own for a while... I just don't know I could care about 2 ppl. at the same time!!! Babybear
mighty bop Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 babybear, it happens all the time. But usually most people do the right thing and stay away from exes. If I was your boyfriend you would not be "hanging out" with your ex. Actually, if that's something my girlfriend wanted to do then I would say "bye-bye" pretty quickly. Then again, some couples think it's fine or whatever but I don't because it leads to situations like the one you are in. Basically, you just need to decide what you want. Chris
holler21 Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 Babybear, its hard init when u care for two people so much and are stuck in the middle, but i dont understand after u and ur bf of 2yrs split, and u met this other guy, why tell him he cud date other ppl?! i think this is what happened - u split with ur bf, felt lonely, met a lovely guy who u fought u cud be with, let him go stupidly cos u fought ud get hurt agen, saw ur ex, stupidly got back with him, and now fink bout the otha guy and let a 'what if' hang over u u gota fink carefully now, who do u love more? if u feel like u want to pick up where u left off, by all means do, but ask him how he feels first and if u see a future with him! a year on, i still fink bout my ex whos decided no contact and now i know thats the best thing cos im over him now and met sum1 else, evn tho yes i do care bout him still, maybe ur gna have to break ties with one of the guys if ur confused, or ul just end up losing both of them!
WantanS4 Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 Eject!!!! Leave them both.. and find the third and don't leave him and never think of the other two. It will make for more of an interesting story.
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