John103 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 (edited) Hi would really appreciate any help or advice that anyone has basically : Im 22 and My girlfriend is 19 seems like a big gap in age but she's more mature than you'd think of someone being at that age having to look after her family growing up. There is absolutely no reason for me being paranoid the last relationship she was in her "ex" hit her , strangled her.. you can imagine the rest, so im assuming straight away that would make her even happier being with me. Not so long ago at a mates party she "apparently " kissed another mate of mine but i wasn't there i didnt want to go and her mates where mates with mine so i had no problem with her going after all we think we can trust out own mates right?? anyway i woke up the next morning not knowing about it cos she did'nt tell me the night before when she came out of the house because she thought id flip and she did'nt want us to fight etc..anyway i woke up and she was in tears next to me with her phone out, her friend had told her on facebook that morning that people where saying that she had been seen kissing him. I asked her why she was crying and she said because that i would instantly assume that she had done it and she did'nt want us to split up cos shes never been so happy with her life because like i said her last boyfriend controlled her the lot, i took a sec to think first cos iv'e reacted without thinking before and it never goes well, i took a deep breathe laughed and said "f**i** he**" and straight away said im sure you never stop crying calm down am sure itl just be someone chatting nonsense. Anyway she denied it and i believed her , i confronted the lad who was supposed to have done this and straight forward asked him what went on? He said nothing happened he never kissed her it was her who wanted to kiss me even though my girlfriend said he came in the living room shut the door on her why she was texting me and said "come on no one will know , she said no im with your mate i love him no..." but what made me wonder is a house full of people yet it ended up just them two in the living room :S . Besides that i just always assume shes cheating on me because since then theres been little lies e.g she works in a hotel , the groups off the x-factor stayed there and she waited on them, one of them was the boy band off there and she told me the whole night it was just some others they wernt there, and i had no reason to question it so the next day i happen to see on the news that the boy band actually stayed there i asked there why she lied and she said " i knew you would have flipped and i just dont wana argue" so basically it was to save arguing, which to some extenct i can bleive cos weve all told a little lie about where we are or what where doing or anything to purely avoid arguing, and now in that job shes doing i asked her if she worked with any other lads when she first started just out of curiosity as you do, she said no yet i find out today off my sister that she works with someone on the bar as my sister works there to, "they work together" i asked her and she said "well really i dont work with him he works on the bar i wait on tables, i can see him why im working if i was to bother looking but technically i dont work with him thats why " but i also asked if she worked around any lads before this happpened to which the answered "no" could this again just be her way of avoiding arguing ?? Now is this just me being paranoid or do i have a need to worry about this? im kinda swayed towards it just being me and its in my head as besides what ive said here ive got no reasons whatsoever besides them to belive these things, and yes im not proud of it but i do smoke a bit of weed, which could be massively contributing to the paranoia . I know this is long , sorry about that just the only way i could put it for you guys, thanks to everyone who gives me their time to read or even comment , thank you all!!! Edited May 4, 2013 by John103
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