NSPROSIE Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Hi everyone, I'm in a bad situation and would like some advice on what to do! Basically, I have come away for the weekend with my boyfriend and as we left this morning we started arguing about the following; He said he wants to leave early on Monday to play golf with his friends, to which I replied 'I would have liked to spend the Monday there too because but if you want to do that then okay' he then decided that I was annoyed at him and telling him that he can't do what he wants. (Bear in mind that is quite literally all I said). Despite my efforts to resolve the argument in the car he wasn't having any of it and we spend the entire hour drive in silence. We then arrive and he decides he wants to go home. I convince him that we should just spend the weekend here and forget about it because its a petty argument that doesn't matter, I also apologised if he thought that I was trying to stop him doing what he wants. He agreed to stay however now he is literally lying on the bed in the hotel room refusing to speak to me and not wanting to do anything claiming 'I just want to be left on my own'. What on earth do I do? I've tried leaving him for a little bit, I went out for a walk and left him here and brought him a little peace offering back. I've tried asking what he wants me to do, to which he just replies 'I just want to be left alone' Please someone tell me how to deal with this? I don't want to spend the weekend like this and I don't want this argument to continue .
zebracolors Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 A rough situation, but as you're in a hotel room, your limited in ways to give him some time to cool off. Im not siding with him on this but every now and then its ok to spend time doing things apart from your SO. He already is with you on your weekend trip, which I presume you had planned with him. But he also should still be allowed quality time with his other friends, apart from you. I don't mean to accuse you, but you asking him to bring you along to the golf meet up, after your weekend trip, might come off as seeming a bit clingy, and maybe he resents that. Id suggest maybe stepping out, for a few hours maybe to the hotel restaurant if you can, and give him some time to cool off, then you can talk about a compromise perhaps. 1
Author NSPROSIE Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 A rough situation, but as you're in a hotel room, your limited in ways to give him some time to cool off. Im not siding with him on this but every now and then its ok to spend time doing things apart from your SO. He already is with you on your weekend trip, which I presume you had planned with him. But he also should still be allowed quality time with his other friends, apart from you. I don't mean to accuse you, but you asking him to bring you along to the golf meet up, after your weekend trip, might come off as seeming a bit clingy, and maybe he resents that. Id suggest maybe stepping out, for a few hours maybe to the hotel restaurant if you can, and give him some time to cool off, then you can talk about a compromise perhaps. I'm considering asking whether he just wants to go home and leaving him to it. He's being a child
CarrieT Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Plan out the rest of the trip with things that seem appealing to you. Let him know what you will be doing and where you will be going. Go and DO THOSE THINGS! If he wants to join you, he will know where to find you and you can go and enjoy yourself. Do it nicely and sweetly - no passive/aggressive voice or anything. Just be nice and tell him you hope he is doing well and can enjoy the weekend with you. 1
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