AwptiK Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Hey LS. It's been a few weeks I believe. I'm just a few days shy of 2 months from my breakup. It's been two weeks of strict-NC, nearly three. I've been feeling really numb to everything. I thought I was okay again. I'd think of her, but easily brush off the thought and continue on with life. Out of no where last night, I just started getting really sad about everything. I cried myself to sleep. It was a HARD struggle this morning to get up for work. It's not that I even snowball thoughts now, my mood has just completely gone south. I don't know why I feel like this. 1
steveT95 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 I can't offer advice but I want to let you know you're not alone. I am currently experiencing exactly the same thing almost. Although I haven't been strict with NC and will try from now on. I was doing really good but I have also gone south severely. Good luck 1
intigo Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Hey LS. It's been a few weeks I believe. I'm just a few days shy of 2 months from my breakup. It's been two weeks of strict-NC, nearly three. I've been feeling really numb to everything. I thought I was okay again. I'd think of her, but easily brush off the thought and continue on with life. Out of no where last night, I just started getting really sad about everything. I cried myself to sleep. It was a HARD struggle this morning to get up for work. It's not that I even snowball thoughts now, my mood has just completely gone south. I don't know why I feel like this. Hi there, i just logged in to write exactly what you wrote.Its been 2 months since the BU about 10 ten days NC (she always broke it). I do everything i am supposed to do keeping myself busy, going out, gym bla bla bla. But its been 3 days now that it feels like i broke up yesterday. I know i have to move on life is short and i lose time but the feeling inside me is overwelming. I want her so much i love her so much that it makes me sick. i also have these stupid panic attacks which i cannot control. They say time is a healer i got over other break ups but i just cant control it. I feel like im tottaly lost and there is nothing i can do, i dont know if im obsessed or depressed or anything else but shes not coming back and that thought kills me every minute. 1
eucalyptus Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 I know that this may be an obvious point, but I have to say it anyway. The concept of NC is just that - NO CONTACT! This also includes FB, Twitter, and any other kind of stalking as well. The idea is that if you give it enough time (3-6 months, likely), that you will allow yourself the ability to view your life without your EX. You can not expect a 2 month old severe wound to heal if you have ripped the scab off 2 weeks ago by having contact with your EX. This goes even if it is not you doing the contact (unless there is a sincere attempt at reconciliation by your EX that you are willing to accept/risk). Your EX broke up with you for a reason that was most likely fueled by an emotion. I know this is harsh, but they basically decided that they no longer wanted you in their lives any longer. Most of us are on this site because we've been on the receiving end of the break up. Accepting the other person's decision when we were not ready to ourselves is one of the hardest things to do. In my opinion, the only way to gather strength in this situation, is to maintain the only real control that you have by deciding to adhere to NC completely until you gradually feel better. Again, this is likely to take more than a couple of weeks, and will probably be more like a couple of months at least. NC = RECOVERY! 1
intigo Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 when your ex calls you its really really difficult not to answer because there is one in a million that they ll say what you want to hear. when i first found this site 2 years ago i did NC and it helped me but she didnt call text email nothing so did i. But my current ex dragged me along for 2 months saying all kind of things. I know many people say dont answer, hung up,change your number and things like that but its not that easy. Im going 31 in 20 days i know when i love someone or not, i have many reasons to say **** her but my stupid heart still cant let go. 2
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