SR2 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Hey all. Need some objective insight into my current situation. A little background info.. *Ex and I dated for 5 months, and he broke up with me less than 2 weeks ago *We argued a lot due to his crazy schedule (he had very limited time for me, but his reasons were all genuine. I did get insecure and disheartened about this.. but i only realise the error in my ways now) *He broke up with me as he feels i "deserve someone better who can give me the support & time i deserve" and his feelings are "clouded by guilt" due to the stress & hurt him not being around caused me. *During the break up he also stated he "has feelings for me and always will" and that "if we are meant to be then we will reunite" After a week of begging, pleading & losing my dignity trying to convince him to try again, he stated it would be naive to try again so soon, when none of our circumstances had changed. I then attempted NC, but my father got extremely ill and ended up in hospital the next day. Due to the seriousness of the situation, i was struggling to cope so i messaged him throughout the week asking if we could talk as i needed support. He didn't reply to anything I sent. So i sent one final message saying something along the lines of "so much for us being friends, you know how i feel and i cant chase you forever, when you realise how amazing i am then give me a call, if you want me in your life you can chase me" .. I didn't expect a response to this, it was more just my final words before starting NC. But a day later he sent me a reply about how he was still extremely emotional about the break up, had tried to move forward but was having difficulty, hadn't had time to reflect, is an emotional mess and feels even more guilty and those were his reasons as to why he wasn't there to support me. DO i even reply to this and what would I say? Keep in mind I am wanting to resolve this and get back together. Sorry for the long read!
Am4Real Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 No you don't reply! What is there to really say? You message to him was perfect albeit I would be picking up the damn phone and saying it with your voice instead of using idiodic text messages to divulge an important and sensitive emotional communication. One day most of you will figure out the negative aspects of texts, Facebook and general electonics for detroying the compassionate human element in relationship communication (but we will save that rant for another day). Anyway, back to you...despite the medium used was text, your last and final message was perfect, to the point, and let him know exactly where you stand and what he needs to do to fix things. Move on now; if he wants to chase you he better get started or he is "out of luck". Good luck.
CorridorE Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 No, don't respond. He says he is an emotional mess, but he is NOT saying he wants to get back together. You told him to call you if he regrets the breakup, so he knows what to do if he wants to get you back. Don't let him keep your life on hold while he's 'reflecting.'
Author SR2 Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 I caved & replied, asking him if we can have coffee and attempt to sort things out.. I intended "sort things out" to be a friendship as we were best friends before we dated, and we work for the same company and rumour has it he is being transferred back to my store, and i don't want any awkwardness or tension. But now i realise it sounds like i want to work on the relationship! .. Which i kind of do.
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