napy666 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Its been 2 years for me since my breakup with my ex of 3 years. But every time I find a new guy to my liking I always find something wrong with him, he either has things I like but doesn't drive, work, or has a place of his own. And yet I am in the same boat with no job, car, or place of my own. Whenever I think of this stuff I immediately think of my ex and wish he was still with me and I hate how he's moved on and found someone new, and he has a car, a place of his own, and a new girl with his own little family etc. While I am living in misery and stuff. I keep trying but yet nothing is happening. I want to forget my ex for good but it looks like I have not I guess I don't know.
aisuru Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Anybody who doesn't have a job, car, or place to live has no business being in a relationship. Nobody can save you except yourself. Put your life together, take care of you, and then you might find somebody worthy of you. Be the kind of person you want to be with. 1
Sav Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 lol..I dont see anything wrong about having no car. Totally disagree with "Anybody who doesnt have a job, car or a place to live has no business being in a relationship." Get off your high horse. On the other hand, agree with "be the kind of person you want to be with". If OP is gonna nitpick on such stuff, then you should possess the qualifications to nitpick them in the first place. Just my two cents 1
aisuru Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 lol..I dont see anything wrong about having no car. Totally disagree with "Anybody who doesnt have a job, car or a place to live has no business being in a relationship." Get off your high horse. Ha! Not so much a high horse as life experience. fair enough... Some cities you don't need a car as public transportation is enough. But missing all three? Yeah, no. Huge red flag!!!
Author napy666 Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 It's been 2 years and I still think of my EX.
denxnis Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Anybody who doesn't have a job, car, or place to live has no business being in a relationship. Nobody can save you except yourself. Put your life together, take care of you, and then you might find somebody worthy of you. Be the kind of person you want to be with. I agree. Nobody wants to be a crutch. I'll be the first to admit that regardless of how pretty a girl was I could never get serious with someone who doesn't have a car or job.
Sav Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Ha! Not so much a high horse as life experience. fair enough... Some cities you don't need a car as public transportation is enough. But missing all three? Yeah, no. Huge red flag!!! Actually, it also depends on the city/country that one is living in. Take mine for example. A car cost 100k at least and public housing costs 600-800k whereas a normal condominium costs 1.5m on average. Now tell me how do you expect people living here to be able to possess all three at let's say 20 or 25
denxnis Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Actually, it also depends on the city/country that one is living in. Take mine for example. A car cost 100k at least and public housing costs 600-800k whereas a normal condominium costs 1.5m on average. Now tell me how do you expect people living here to be able to possess all three at let's say 20 or 25 She lives in California...
crederer Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 How old are you? I moved back in with my dad after my break up. I'm 25. I have been on my own since 18-25. Sometimes situations call for it. However, I have a good job and a car so....I will be getting a place of my own once I feel like I'm back on my feet.
aisuru Posted May 9, 2013 Posted May 9, 2013 Can't you see I'm talking about the general population... Sorry, I'm referring to the US as that's where I live. I understand transportation is different in other countries in which case, the norm should apply. Where I live, you can survive without a car, but I choose to not date somebody who does not have a car. I dated somebody without a car for two years. I'll never do that again. I'm also in my mid-late 30s so... based on my circumstance, if somebody lived at home with their family or didn't have a place of their own (roommates are fine), it would be a red flag for me. My perception is based on my experiences, my reality, and my geographic location.
Author napy666 Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 I keep dreaming of my ex on and off I don't know why.
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