bbbjack Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Hi all, I'm in college and I've been friends with my classmate since we started college. We'd both been through bad breakups and we'd, especially her for me, helped each other through the bad times. We never said it outright, but we kind of told one another we weren't ready to enter into another relationship, but there was enough there for me to know that we were into one another. That was a year ago. In the past year, we've started talking and hanging out more often and texting each other more. But at the same time we've been seeing other people--just casual dates and such, nothing serious. So it's summer break now, and we've hung out, just the two of us, a couple of times, and things are starting to feel different. It seems like we're more nervous around one another in person, but we've started flirting a lot more over the phone. Usually I'd think that that would be enough for me to start going to the next level, but the last time we hung out she gave me mixed signals. On the plus side, we started playing footsie for the first time (we'd previously been making fun of couples who do), and it seemed like she wanted to keep talking and hanging out until her mom asked her to come home, which she did, reluctantly. On the minus side, she kept telling me that it was time for me to find a "summer love" and that I've been stupid about my relationships in the past (which is a fair point. ). Also, she said that she'd be starting an internship over the summer, and that she'd see me when classes started again. Both of these things made me feel like she's pushing me away from her and wants me to see someone else. So, I guess my question is, should I take this as a sign that I should just be friends with her, at least for now, or should I tell her that I like her and start being more serious with my relationship with her? Thanks!
UmbrellaBoy Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 That's a tough one. Is it possible her "find a summer love" is her way of saying to find it with HER? Like, that she's fishing around about what your current prospects are? But with the internship thing...I dunno. I'd have the talk with her. If it doesn't work, you can always try again in 3-6 months if the school year has started if things seem to be going better. It's not like there is some magic strategy to the timing. Just communicate, see where she is, and you can always talk more in the future if things change.
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