BLS Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 I'm currently a high school senior. I'm coming out of a 2.5 year relationship and have been NC for a couple weeks now. I feel like getting to know new people at this point. A girl in a class of mine has always been pretty shy. Recently I started being slightly flirty with her. She always smiles when I talk or mess around with her (silly stuff like intentionally bumping into her and saying "watch where you're going"). I decided I wanted to chat with her a bit out of school and wanted to ask for her number. Lol I phrased it with some nonsense like "Hey well you speak Spanish and so does a friend of mine who I want to speak Spanish to, so can I have your number and help by translating for me?". I shot her a text right after just saying my name so she had it. Later that day I shot her a text to translate something. About 2 hours later I got the translation along with an apology (presumably for not getting back to me sooner). We chatted (via text) for a bit after that until I said I had to go. I waited a day and did nothing other than a short conversation in class. This brings us to today where I didn't go to school. After I knew she was out I sent a greeting text followed by asking about something we did in class. We proceeded to text back and forth for a few hours, in general a good conversation. At one point it was about 70mins before she got back to me (the rest of the time it was always <10mins) so I just responded with something like "it was nice talking. I'll chat with you another time". I like this chick and don't want to come on too strong. I'm not sure if i should instigate conversation tomorrow or not. I'd like to talk with her on the phone. What do you guys think I should do? Thanks in advance
jenn_64 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Take a chance and call her! You never know what can happen until you try. 1
Author BLS Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 You guys don't think I should slowly progress it from texting to calling after a few more days/weeks so I don't come on too strong?
Author BLS Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 UPDATE (still looking for advice): Today came. I texted her at around 7pm with no response until about 10. The response I got was something along the lines of "sorry i had people over and didn't see your text until now!!". We chatted for about 1.5hrs (texting) until I said I could better explain my work over the phone. Seemingly suddenly she said "I want to know more about it but later" then in the same text said it was because she was too tired and was going to bed then said goodnight. I've decided not to instigate a conversation w/ her anymore until she sends me a text or something. ADVICE??
Curious-One Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 UPDATE (still looking for advice): Today came. I texted her at around 7pm with no response until about 10. The response I got was something along the lines of "sorry i had people over and didn't see your text until now!!". We chatted for about 1.5hrs (texting) until I said I could better explain my work over the phone. Seemingly suddenly she said "I want to know more about it but later" then in the same text said it was because she was too tired and was going to bed then said goodnight. I've decided not to instigate a conversation w/ her anymore until she sends me a text or something. ADVICE?? She replied at 10 , you tested for 1.5 hrs (STRONG WTF WHO TEXTS FOR THAT LONG) so now its 11;30pm and you just now wanna call her on the phone. Ofcorse shes gonna say she has to go to sleep especially if she is in HS. If she is in HS she is lving with her parents, i dont think her parents would be to happy with her talking on the phone (potentially) keeping them up at 11:30pm. Next time you see her at school talk to her a bit and tell her you will give her a call after school and then do it. Much better then trying to call her at midnight WTF.
Archgirl Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 (edited) Texting is fine this early - I know exactly what you mean, you're still building the connection, everyone does it. I don't know why everyone on this thread is acting like it's a terrible mistake- in my book the only time texting instead of calling is a dumbass move is when you are discussing something important or asking for a date. But what is the content if your messages. Are you being plutonic and chatting about everyday topics still? She could be bored. I get bored when the conversation doesn't get flirty and the guy isn't letting me know he thinks I'm hot by trying it on a lil - teasing/joking with me. And then I start losing interest again even if it has got flirty if he doesn't ask me out. And texting everyday is nice - the guy I'm seeing now started by texting me every morning saying "Goodmorning beautiful". But we didn't need to have a massive text exchange everyday. 2/3 times you should be aiming to get your message across and get out of the conversation before she does or you lose the power a bit. Does any of this sound like a possible explanation? Edited May 5, 2013 by Archgirl
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