mirage12 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Hello, Wanted to get your take on this. Started hanging out with a girl a little more than three months ago, been dating her for about 2 months. We're both finishing up grad school, and she's 28, a few years older than me. Things have been going really well so far, and we've been texting all the time/I've been seeing her 4-5 times a week. About 2 weeks ago, we went into finals time, which is a really stressful period for all of us. Since that time started, I've only seen her once a week - which I get, because school is a priority and she's had a ridiculous amount of work to get done. The last time that I saw her was this past Sunday, but since then, I've noticed that our communication has really dropped off. In the past 3 days, I've been the one to initiate the conversation, which has been brief. Yesterday, I tested it out, and waited until night time to see if she'd bother texting, but she didn't. So I shot her a message, wishing her good luck for the test she has today, and we chatted a bit. After asking what she was doing after the test, she said that she was going out because one of her friends was done with grad school/that I should come/that she missed me, etc etc. Although all of these things by themselves don't seem so bad, taken as a whole they've been annoying me. Although this girl is very, very independent, and she's been super stressed because of her tests, I also think it takes 5 seconds to send a text - even if it's just to say "hey." I also got annoyed by the going out response, because not only have I not seen or talked to her for most of the week, I had to ask what she was doing to find that out. I don't want to be the over-possessive type, which is why I'm not really planning to make any of this an issue with her - but I just wanted to get your take on if I'm getting annoyed unreasonably about all this?
CorridorE Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 I think you can bring up how you are feeling without making it into a big deal or seeming possessive; I would be more than a little annoyed too. It really bothers me when I message someone and they don't respond for a day or two, eventually giving the excuse that 'sorry, I was really busy.' Too busy not to atleast tell me for over 24 hours? Anyway... If finals aren't over yet, wait until they are and tell her how you'd been feeling and how you know school was a priority, but you just want to make sure you aren't drifting apart. Communication is always key, so once things calm down with school, try to get things back on track. Good luck
Archgirl Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 I think she's lost interest- the honeymoon period is over. If you bring it up or message her a lot you'll only make it worse by being the needy one. Back off. Wait for her to message you/ask you out. You want to regain some of your attractive unavailability instead of being always the one doing all the chasing.
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