thr1986 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 I'm 26 and have dated someone for the past year. She moved across the country to be with me. We were crazy about one another. Just loved each other so so much. Talked about having a family one day, house, life together, ect. We did long distance for most of our relationship until 3 months ago when she moved here. Personally, I think she is a pathological liar as she lies about everything. What she ate for lunch, who she talked to on the phone, she would make up stories to make her look cooler, ect ect. Additionally, she would ask for strange things sexually like to be choked or for me to slap her in the face, or to dress in costumes and role play, WEIRD stuff....NONE of which I really ever did. She would say things like "i'm only here for your pleasure" which i thought was weird because I am a very traditional lover and did nothing to bring out this behavior. Outside of the lying and the weird sex stuff she was a totally loving and caring woman that i felt genuinely loved me. She was always very forward about us being monogamous and always telling me how monogamous she is to me and will always be. This made me feel comfortable, and I was the same way back to her. I started reading about pathaolgical liars and the description fits her perfectly. They don't live in reality and they dont have any feelings, which would explain why she was always trying to be sappy and asking for me to constantly tell her how much I loved her and needed her. I also read that their sexual habits are an extension of their inner thoughts so her referring to herself as just there for my pleasure may signify that she was feelingless and wanted to be an object for my desire. I recently overheard her talking to someone about how she was unhappy here (only lived here for 3 months) and that things were different now that she lived where I am. She said she wanted to leave and made up stories about how I was aggressive with her and thats why she wanted out. (That was completely untrue, I have not been aggressive with her at all). She has been married 2 other times before turning 25 years old. She says that she was a victim in both situations, says that she was cheated on so she divorced both of them. The stories of what these guys did to her are so outrageous that its almost unbelievable. She is ALWAYS seeking sympathy and describing to people how she is a victim. Is she just plain Crazy? I have left her as of monday this week. I completely started ignoring her. She texted me and called me a few times monday and tuesday but then totally stopped contact. How do you guys feel about this? I think shes just a little insane
Mr. Nibbles Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 How do you guys feel about this? I think shes just a little insane Sounds like you've already made up your mind. If she's cra-cra you don't need her in your life. You need a woman who isn't crazy.
denxnis Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Two sides to every story, but if you are already having issues only three months in it's time to move on.
CorridorE Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 Personally, I feel that having the ability to be honest with one another is a make-or-break in a relationship... the hard truth may be that if she lies about small things, it will only escalate worse and worse - and from what you overheard her saying on the phone, it seems that it already has. And if you can't trust her on small things, how sure can you really be that she will always be faithful? I'm sorry, but I think you are doing the right thing.
Author thr1986 Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 It's just so so hard. I tried going out last night and I compare everyone to her. I kept imagining if she walked in and if I didn't know her how I would be taken aback by how pretty and stylish she is. I just am so in love with her and even after I confronted her with what I heard she said she didn't mean it and told me she loves me and wants a life with me. God I just don't understand how she can say both things, to me that she's crazy about me and wants a life with me and to her friend that she wants out and that I'm treatin her terribly. She has a problem where it's like she has to get sympathy from everyone and makes up stories to get it. I'm a 26 year old working grown man and this just breaks my heart and makes me cry. I hate love
Author thr1986 Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 treating her terribly***** I meant to say above
CorridorE Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 It's just so so hard. I tried going out last night and I compare everyone to her. I kept imagining if she walked in and if I didn't know her how I would be taken aback by how pretty and stylish she is. I just am so in love with her and even after I confronted her with what I heard she said she didn't mean it and told me she loves me and wants a life with me. God I just don't understand how she can say both things, to me that she's crazy about me and wants a life with me and to her friend that she wants out and that I'm treatin her terribly. She has a problem where it's like she has to get sympathy from everyone and makes up stories to get it. I'm a 26 year old working grown man and this just breaks my heart and makes me cry. I hate love Her actions to others are speaking louder than her kind words to you right now, referring to her phone conversation with the friend. It's almost as if she's getting so caught up in the lies that she doesn't even know what she wants anymore. I know you love her, but you don't deserve all this doubt and drama in your life... I'm sorry.
Author thr1986 Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 I'm 26. Until this point in my life I've been busy with college and then starting a career, ect. Sure I've had girlfriends but never anyone like this. Never had I been able to realistically plan a life with someone and start thinking about buying a home and eventually getting married. Although I broke it off, it's so hard because I didn't want to but her problem is out of control. Does it get better? Will I forget all the unique things about her that I love and find someone new? Will I be that happy again one day?
Recommended Posts