Author Kamille Posted May 4, 2013 Author Posted May 4, 2013 Put on some nice clothes, makeup and walk outside with a smile on your face you'll meet plenty of guys. This is good advice, of course. But, I've been doing that and yes I do meet guys. It's the part where I meet a guy who likes me as much as I like him that seems to be a challenge. But I had a very relaxing day and just realized something. If I'm here looking for someone who's right for me, he's out there looking for me. Somehow I find that thought comforting.
iris219 Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 I wouldn't worry about it yet. You've only been single for a year. That's not long at all. Enjoy this time. I feel like many people rarely have an opportunity to be entirely single, meaning they aren't dating and they aren't even thinking about a particular man. I am so thankful I had these periods in my life because I discovered so much about myself. Try to see this period in your life as valuable. 1
Pompeii Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 I don't know what to tell you. As a guy who has never had any type of post-platonic relationships with a female, then I can't really understand where you're coming from. Being single sucks, sure but feeling as if you're invisible is even harder. Since you're a woman, I'd just say hang in there. If a guy was in your shoes, I'd say "tough luck, partner".
edgygirl Posted May 5, 2013 Posted May 5, 2013 (edited) Words that come to mind when I think about the men I fall for: So please don't do OLD. After 3 years online, it seems you are describing turning off qualities of 99% of guys I went on dates with. If you do find two guys with qualities in your "like" list, please PLEASE keep one, and send one my way! These are in extinction these days I'm afraid they are less than .5% of the male single population. So hard to come across. Edited May 5, 2013 by edgygirl
Author Kamille Posted May 5, 2013 Author Posted May 5, 2013 I don't know what to tell you. As a guy who has never had any type of post-platonic relationships with a female, then I can't really understand where you're coming from. Being single sucks, sure but feeling as if you're invisible is even harder. Since you're a woman, I'd just say hang in there. If a guy was in your shoes, I'd say "tough luck, partner". I'm sorry to hear that Pompeii. It must be frustrating. I do try to remind myself that no matter what happens in the future, at least I can say I know what it feels like to be in love. So please don't do OLD. After 3 years online, it seems you are describing turning off qualities of 99% of guys I went on dates with. If you do find two guys with qualities in your "like" list, please PLEASE keep one, and send one my way! These are in extinction these days I'm afraid they are less than .5% of the male single population. So hard to come across. I did try OLD a few times and have lost interest. It's not really a process that works for me. I've met two guys that had a lot of the qualities in my like list recently. One of them was upfront about not being ready for a relationship (he had just broken up a long term relationship). The other is pretty much why I started this thread. We went on one date, had a wonderful wonderful time. We hung out another time and it was good. And yet, he isn't following up. To be fair, I should have seen this one coming. It took us one month to figure out a time when we were both available for the first date. I guess the good news is there are some of those guys out there, and I do meet them. The frustrating part is that, so far, the feelings haven't been mutual.
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