candie13 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 he is a grown man, you did not scare anyone away. he may not have liked what he listened, but I don't think you've scared him away. I'm gonna let some of the more sex kittens (aka archgirl ) step in and give you some advice as to how to sweet talk your man. I am useless when it comes to that, sorry, girl, I am good at giving hell to a guy, haha. The only advice I can give you is to be perfectly natural. IMO, your priority no 1 should not be if to text him or not. Your priority should be to find other playmates . For a guy to plan so much in advance, it means he goes after what he wants, makes time to plan it and then goes ahead and takes it. He'll call you, if he cares. If anything, your not contacting and trying harder might intrigue him. but then again, I ain't no man, I got no idea what the hell they're thinking anyway. In my book, if he's interested, he calls. If he's not, he doesn't. I say stay put and get busy !
Author Miss1122 Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 he is a grown man, you did not scare anyone away. he may not have liked what he listened, but I don't think you've scared him away. I'm gonna let some of the more sex kittens (aka archgirl ) step in and give you some advice as to how to sweet talk your man. I am useless when it comes to that, sorry, girl, I am good at giving hell to a guy, haha. The only advice I can give you is to be perfectly natural. IMO, your priority no 1 should not be if to text him or not. Your priority should be to find other playmates . For a guy to plan so much in advance, it means he goes after what he wants, makes time to plan it and then goes ahead and takes it. He'll call you, if he cares. If anything, your not contacting and trying harder might intrigue him. but then again, I ain't no man, I got no idea what the hell they're thinking anyway. In my book, if he's interested, he calls. If he's not, he doesn't. I say stay put and get busy ! Thanks. I'm seeing other people. Honestly, he was just an option before but his personality got me. He plans our dates ahead of time. Usually he ask on a Tuesday. He's polite. He's respectful. He's caring. He's gentleman. Slowly, he started growing on me. He became the person I'm looking forward to see. Before he was just someone I see because I have nothing else to do. Couple times I thought that I should stop seeing him cause I didn't find him that attractive. He's just an average looking person but fit. Alot of people say I'm a very attractive girl.
candie13 Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 yeah, you've got the hots after this guy. ok, so whatever you're doing with other guys, you're doing wrong . Change! Next the most boring one. Get someone new and exciting, to take your mind off of Mr. No Show, here... I see why you're all hot after him, he's smart, he played by the book. Unfortunately, in love, it's not the one who's most attractive that wins, it's the smartest one. So... outsmart him. Understand that if you stay all nice and passive, you're not gonna get the guy. He's going to leave. The best revenge in these cases, is not to give him attention, it's to give yourself that attention. To be happy with yourself and with what you've got going, instead of yearning after him. It may be that dating isn't your thing, fine. Your friend. Your hobby. Your work. Your projects. It sounds crazy, but the moment you take your mind off of him, the moment you start to get busy, they call. It's like they feel it. My current bf felt it. Kept calling all the time .
outsidethebox Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 OP, I respect Candie's opinions, I usually not only agree but give her likes, but in this case I disagree with her and everyone else. It seems very simple to me but it has dragged out. You had a good situation going. You were happy with it. You did a reasonable thing and asked where it was going but 1) realized the reaction wasn't what you expected, and 2) didn't care that much where it was going for now. You then saw communications fade away. I said do one simple thing. Text him and tell him you miss him and you'd like to get together. Meet, have a glass of wine or a shot of Tequila or whatever, and tell him he makes you happy and you want to make him happy as he makes you. What is so complicated about that? We have all these rules, don't do this, don't do that, screw him, screw her, yada yada, and all you have to do is communicate to let him know indirectly that you liked what you had. If you don't he thinks you don't like what you had. But people say write him off because you misled him. Just undo a simple question with a simple statement. Then kiss the night away. But heck that's spontaneous. With all this calculation the moment is lost. Still I hope you guys get back together sooner rather than later or never.
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