Skipper888 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 How do you go about maintaining NC when you ex and you still talk everyday and night. I try and go NC and dont look at my phone but then i do and theres a msg there from her saying 'good morning babe how r u going xx'.. I dont reply and get another msg saying 'hope your okay babe'.... I dont know what i want too achieve with her. We have hung out a few times since the break up and have made out, cuddled etc all those nice things a couple do but yeah. She still doesnt want to commit to me or be in a relationship (LDR). I found out she kissed some random dude out clubbing about 2 months ago before we started 'seeing' eachother again kind of. That caused a massive argument etc and since then she has been distant and not very affectionate. The week after she sees me she is always affectionate and msges me none stop always planning future meet ups, then another weekend goes by where she hangs out with friends she goes distant and non responsive to flirty msges or anything i say. I asked her what she was doing next weekend if she wanted to do something and she said ..' nah i dont have any plans. we can hang out ' But once again she just seems indifferent towards me after i asked her if she has hooked up with someone. Maybe cause she is scared im going to use it against her and hook up myself. Just hard to decide what the correct path to go.. NC, in which i do feel a lot better, i didnt check my phone last night at all and had a msg from her but didnt no till the morning. ( i usually reply and then dont hear from her for an hour or 2, i think she was annoyed i ignored her last night). But on the other hand i feel so happy when we are talking like nothing is wrong and we are in a committed relationship, but then i get sad, upset, worried knowing we arnt committed and she is probably over boys houses or makin gout while clubbing all the while texting me all day and night. How can someone put so much effort into someone else ( ie: her into me but texting me all day/night) and still not want to be in a relationship or anything... just so confused... Sorry this has been about my 6 thread in 3 days probably getting sick of it as i keep getting told the same things... How do you know you are doing the right thing?
aisuru Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 You take a piece of paper, write down all her contact information, and tuck it away. You then delete EVERYTHING related to her from your mobile devices. If you have to, you log on to your cell phone account online and block her number. You remove all pics of y'all from your computer and mobile devices. Save them to a portable drive. Take all those mementos, piece of paper with contact information, and portable drive with the pics and tuck it away in a box somewhere. Then, you write a list of 20 things you can do to keep your mind off her. Set a time frame if you have to of when it will be okay to contact her. You may find you have no interest in contacting her. Right now, she's your habit. You need to find something to replace the habit. Then, you move on. Take care of you. Heal. Look inside yourself of how you can be a better person and be the kind of person you want to be with. Get out of limbo land dude. You will both be better for it.
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