sa93bo Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 My girlfriend suffers from depression, she periodically pushes everybody away... She told me she wanted a break because she didn't want to push me away, she kept contacting me after she initiated the break but we never discussed our relationship, just friendly talking. When I did see her she didn't want to kiss me, didn't hold my hand, say I love you... When I left her house I asked for a kiss, she kissed me twice and hugged me, I noticed she had tears in her eyes, I asked what was going on she said she will explain soon -.- that night I went home and texted her asking if there was still going to be a relationship after her break and that it was hurting me seeing her every few days and not being shown any love without any explanation. So we had our argument, I told her I always try to make her happy, and this time I felt as if my feelings were being disregarded, she turned it around and made me look like the bad guy saying she was doing this for my benefit!!! (In the sense that she didn't want to lose me during her depression) I told her we would talk tomorrow.... She replied "don't even want to" We never argue, she's very stubborn she won't contact me first. I don't want this relationship to be over, we both love each other very much. The thing is I am right in this situation I shouldn't have to crawl back to her begging for forgiveness. Should I just leave it for a week and then text her asking to talk about our situation. Or should I just wait it out for her to hopefully contact me? By the way. She is not cheating on me (she doesn't leave the house or know anybody due to her depression) and don't tell me to leave her or move on, I love her too much.
SJC2008 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 and don't tell me to leave her or move on, I love her too much. In that case the only advice I could give you is to accept that she's never wrong and that you'll always be the bad guy.
Eggplant Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Depressed people always push loved ones away. Sometimes space is what they need; other times it's exactly what they don't need. You will have to ride the waves. Are you ready? It's important that she try hard to deal with the issue, since in a partnership, it's not just her issue any longer. She needs medication, exercise, a steady counselor, etc. Make sure you can accept her the way she is NOW if you are going to stay with her. Do not build a life with her with the intention of being her knight in shining armor and saving her and changing her. I've seen that happen and fail miserably. 2
phineas Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 In that case the only advice I could give you is to accept that she's never wrong and that you'll always be the bad guy. Yep. OP knows the answer but still wants to fly too close to the sun.
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