zerovandez Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 So here's the story... Got a new job full of very attractive women and I think I've got the eye of one. We small talk every day and I've given her complements which she's been very receptive of. She talks how she has to turn down any intimate or romantic advancements put forth by her guy friends and it makes her feel bad. She has many guy friends but none to fit the "bill." I asked about her weekend plans the other day and she is going to a pub crawl on Saturday. The very next day I messaged her and said, "hey I heard you're ditching the pub crawl and going on a hike with me!" She asked who said that and I just played it off. Then she goes into suggesting that I attend her Saturday plans but I suggested a Sunday funday instead which she accepted! She gave me her phone number and left for the day. So here's a bit about her, she calls most of her guy friends, "friend." She says this is a way of giving the boys a "friendly" expectation vs anything else. The other day she invited me to lunch but ended up not making it and I said, "wow you're so busy, I feel lucky to at least be considered for lunch with you." She replied and said, "No I should feel lucky " Someone tell me she's flirting! Right?! LOL. I think about her "friend" comment but wondering why she was so quick to invite and so willing to hangout on Sunday. I hope she's interested So what do you all think?
thefooloftheyear Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Good luck with that one... I have found that women who have a lot of "guy friends" are usually ones who are attention whores and constantly seeking validation from men. Its annoying as hell, IMO. if you get "serious" with her are you Ok with her hanging out with a bunch of guys if you are working or cant see her? If you dont think you can, its going to be an issue, because she wont give that up for you. She is addicted to the ego boost... Just an observation based on past experience. Your experience may vary. TFY 1
RogerWallace111 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 (edited) Who knows what her particular scoop is but a lot of the above ^ could be true... But in regards to you're actual question ... Sounds like she's at least entertaining the idea of being with you, if not straight up flirting. Her telling you about having to stave off her male friends' advancements could seem like a bad sign, but also could be her way of communicating that you don't fall into that category and are someone she's feeling an at least mildly more intimate type of connection with. Lame response to your joke about the hike though, is she an uptight type ? Sounds like something I'd say... And she damn sure better respond "Oh yeah ? Where's this hike happening ?" Edited May 3, 2013 by RogerWallace111
Ponders Posted May 4, 2013 Posted May 4, 2013 I second the notion of not pursuing an intimite relationship with a co-worker. You also mentioned that it is a new job so this advice is even more pertinent as you don't know the office dynamics as well as some of the seasoned employees and you don't want things to go sour with co-worker. The chance of things going bad is rather high- no matter how well you hit it off or how much you thing she digs you. My advice would be to make her your friend and get with her friends. Tread lightly friend...
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