sa93bo Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 My girlfriend suffers from depression, she periodically pushes everybody away... She told me she wanted a break because she didn't want to push me away, she kept contacting me after she initiated the break but we never discussed our relationship, just friendly talking. When I did see her she didn't want to kiss me, didn't hold my hand, say I love you... When I left her house I asked for a kiss, she kissed me twice and hugged me, I noticed she had tears in her eyes, I asked what was going on she said she will explain soon -.- that night I went home and texted her asking if there was still going to be a relationship after her break and that it was hurting me seeing her every few days and not being shown any love without any explanation. So we had our argument, I told her I always try to make her happy, and this time I felt as if my feelings were being disregarded, she turned it around and made me look like the bad guy saying she was doing this for my benefit!!! (In the sense that she didn't want to lose me during her depression) I told her we would talk tomorrow.... She replied "don't even want to" We never argue, she's very stubborn she won't contact me first. I don't want this relationship to be over, we both love each other very much. The thing is I am right in this situation I shouldn't have to crawl back to her begging for forgiveness. Should I just leave it for a week and then text her asking to talk about our situation. Or should I just wait it out for her to hopefully contact me? By the way. She is not cheating on me (she doesn't leave the house or know anybody due to her depression) and don't tell me to leave her or move on, I love her too much.
EmptyWalls Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Sounds like she does need time. Give it to her and give her as much as she needs. But its not right for her to keep you on the sidelines. If she ever expects to have a commited relationship with you then she needs you there, and needs to be able to open up to you and trust you. I have seen people in depression go from laughing one minute to crying their eyes out the next. Hope she is on medication for it. Yea dude I would just tell her "hey look babe, I know you need some time and space to clear your head and work things out, just know im here for you if you need to talk." And when shes ready then she will come back. Now if you think its something you did and the relationship is definitely over then I would discuss this and say are we breaking up? Whats going on? If you think this state she is in wont ever change then it might be best for you to move on. Tough to say what the right thing to do is my guy, you know her better than I do.
aisuru Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Give her space. It's hard being depressed and in a relationship. You should want her to take care of you. If you remain together, it will make your relationship better that she's taking care of herself. If she doesn't deal with her issues/depression and figure out how to manage it, she will have nothing to give you. Breathe, give her space. Don't pester her about you or the relationship. You, and the relationship, will be better for this. You cannot fix her. Only she can fix her.
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