SiaLv82 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 You met a man/woman offline and things are going well. You have spent nights, met each others friends, and somewhere a long the line you have gotten to the point where you no longer ask "if" but rather "when" you'll be getting together on weekends. You assume the checklist of above would suffice the idea that he/she wants to solely be with you alone. Yet you stumble across an online profile that is still very much active. For a short time you follow it and realize that the activity is daily. How would you react? Would your gut reaction be to ask or would you rather take it as a sign that you are not the one for this particular person? Provided with all of the above, the person has yet to ask you to be exclusive, yet continues to include you in relationship type situations..... How would you handle?
soccerrprp Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 He or she is certainly not seeing you as the one, yet, or if at all. He/she is still looking for something better. Talk to him/her about it. I don't think there's any way around it. If you don't and he does find someone else, you will get hurt more. Especially after some time when you become more and more emotionally invested, it will be much more disappointing.
soccerrprp Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 when you're exclusive. Oh right. Did the two of you declare that you are exclusive? I firmly believe that there needs to be a vocal declaration of this. Otherwise, he or she is free to continue looking, no? I always find it interesting that people are not aware or don't care that you can check to see if he/she has been active. Not certain what is going on there. 1
JourneyLady Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 You met a man/woman offline and things are going well. You have spent nights, met each others friends, and somewhere a long the line you have gotten to the point where you no longer ask "if" but rather "when" you'll be getting together on weekends. You assume the checklist of above would suffice the idea that he/she wants to solely be with you alone. Yet you stumble across an online profile that is still very much active. For a short time you follow it and realize that the activity is daily. How would you react? Would your gut reaction be to ask or would you rather take it as a sign that you are not the one for this particular person? Provided with all of the above, the person has yet to ask you to be exclusive, yet continues to include you in relationship type situations..... How would you handle? I agree with the above. After all, if you haven't had the "exclusive" talk yet, he may just be checking messages or replying to "hey, how are ya's" from other people. Heck I got a message late last night from a very young whippersnapper asking me... Well I forget what it was, but it was lewd. I told him I'm not a cougar. lol! But you get those emails when you get messages and if it's not a name you recognize, you kinda gotta go look. For curiosity's sake at last. But yeah - if you haven't talked about where it's headed, then each party is allowed to do what they do... 1
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