SalientPoint Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Hey guys, so I try not to post endless amounts of threads or more than one in a day, but now something has come up that I really could use some objective advice on. Basically ex has been texting me bread crumbs and I think I've been alright about handling them, but I'm at a loss as to how to approach this one. She broke up with me, and the way she did it was very immature and ****ty, but I know for a fact that us being in a LDR inter-continental relationship had a huge amount to do with it. Basically if she really wanted to make it work she would have, but at the same time I know we wouldn't have broken up if we were in the same city or even country, so yeah. I had gone NC for awhile, but then due to her acting like maybe she was willing to work it out, went to LC back and forth, but still cut off all the online stuff, we're not facebook friends etc, but we have several mutual friends that are my good friends. However, I forgot that when I tag them in posts she can see it. So one of my good straight friends/co-workers, that I love but is super bold, saw a lesbian she thought I would like at Whole Foods and actually tried to get her to go out with me lol. I thought this was hillarious and made a jokey status about it that my ex saw. So today I get a text from her asking " So are you going out with the Whole Foods Girl?" My first instinct is to say " It's none of your business" or something like that. Or I could just ignore it, or finally tell her that I don't think she truly has any intention of working things out with me and to never talk to me again. All of them seem like pretty attractive options but I don't know. The only reason I'm inclined to even consider speaking to her is because I know distance played such a relevant part in our breakup, but I still don't realistically see much hope at this point.
steveT95 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 No Contact. You want her to make a proper effort instead of just breadcrumbs? No Contact You want her to leave you alone so you can move on? No Contact I've praised the rules and broken them just as many times. My biggest regret? No been strong enough to go into strict NC from the very start of the BU. Don't say anything. It is none of her business, but she doesn't need to be told that. She's not asking because she wants you back, she's asking because she wants to move on before you do. NC, my friend, NC. 2
KPChick000 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 No, don't respond. She broke up with you; she loses any right to know what is happening with you. Keep her squirming.
ForeverHopeful1 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 I would go NC. Alternatively, if you must speak to her, say "no."
aisuru Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Take a break from Facebook if you're truly interested in NC. If you have mutual friends, you know she's going to see things. Take a true break.
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