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What if we both are using the no contact rule


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I know exactly how my ex boyfriend is. He is not going to contact me, he is very stubborn. I really want to try this no contact rule thing, to get him back. But I know he is probably doing the same thing, to prove to me that it's really over.

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Right, so what is the question?

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Try reading the NC thread and Tara's posts in there. There's a fine line between going NC as an attempt to truly move on and as an attempt for emotional manipulation (not "really over" but I'll play along- which sounds like what you're mentioning). Try figuring out where you're standing. I for one, confess that I initially did it to get him to do something, but ultimately realized that NC starts to work and you start to (gradually and slowly) get back on your feet and feel better when it's really with the intention of breaking free and move on. Once I knew he wouldn't come back to me (I still hope we'll be together one day; most definitely not this year!), I felt sad but also like I had a thousand opportunities in front of me to just get on with my life and get past this, as difficult as it still is for me.

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Yep, read the NO CONTACT guide. Its NOT for getting your ex back. But it sure as hell will work to begin healing yourself.

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