jeni45667 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 He keeps mentioning my drive and desire to succeed and etc, so he just likes my ambition and nothing else, is that it ?
jeni45667 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 I finally get it. A professional mentorship with a guy should be conducted purely professionally. I made the mistake of abusing my femininity. There should be no romantic undertone at all. Now, I get it. Will be very professional in the future. I promise
snowflakes88 Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 Could he not get the hints? Why does he keep helping me if he doesnot like me? And why do I keep obsessing about it? Some people are just nice people. I've had several mentors throughout my career who have taken me out for coffee, lunch, drinks, answered my emails and calls, etc. Both men and women. None of them were interested in me romantically, to my knowledge. I'm now at a point in my career where I mentor more junior folks in my profession. I'm not romantically interested in any of them. Nothing says this guy is interested in you. Only you can answer why you're obsessing about it.
pteromom Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Thanks so much for checking in, Pteromom!! You're the best We had lunch at this very elegant cafe, then he suggested we go somewhere else. I told him I wanted to take a walk, so he took me to a nice park. The total meeting was about 3 hours. After the walk in the park, he said "that was fun." I did what you suggested. I gave me compliments, touched his arms a few times, and laughed at what he said. He didn't flirt with me. He was very professional, very helpful, and gave me tons of advice. When he dropped me off at my place at the end, I gave him a hug and he had this very thoughtful look on his face and he said "I hope this is helpful." After that, he didn't email me or contact me. No mention of meeting again. I sent him another question earlier today about my career. Again, he was just like before, and replied with very thoughtful answers to help me within a few hours. I don't know what's going on with him. It seems that this meeting did nothing to advance or change anything. He was just like before. It sounds to me that he isn't interested in more than a professional friendship. Do you know for sure that he isn't married or gay or in a serious relationship?
jeni45667 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Thanks for the message. They really make me feel better. He's really into women. He's just not into me.
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