A List of Reasons why My Ex Sucks

[BustedUpInside]

1. He never wanted to spend any money on me, but would constantly ask me to buy him expensive things he knew that I really couldn't afford.

2. He never wanted to do anything or go anywhere, but then would complain that he was bored and we never had any fun.

3. We would almost never have sex.

4. No matter what accomplishment I reached (losing 40 lbs, getting straight A's, graduating college, getting a full ride scholarship to law school) he would never act like it was a big deal, but anything good that happened to him was a "special occasion" that had to be celebrated.

5. He always had bad breath but would complain about other people's breath

6. He never wanted to make plans for the future, but then would be upset that he wasn't prepared for unforeseen circumstances.

7. He had real trouble being social or making friends, but would be jealous or upset that I had friends.

8. Considered himself a real outdoors kind of person and would act like I was lazy, even though I went to school full time, took care of the animals, cleaned the house, and did the majority of the cooking.

9. He would ignore me for days on end and then when he would be ready to talk, would get upset if I was then mad at his prior behavior.

10. Rarely complimented me, rarely said "I love you" first, and didn't like to be physically affectionate.

11. Acted like I was holding him back, but now that I am gone, he is doing less with his life than ever.

 

This is not even close to the reasons why he was awful, but it is pretty obvious that these are enough. I am not implying that I didn't have my own faults in the relationship but just reading over these few things is helping me not just remember the good times but to actually see why it might have been a good thing to break up. Maybe we really weren't right for each other and maybe I will be much better off without him.

[mtnbiker3000]

1. He never wanted to spend any money on me, but would constantly ask me to buy him expensive things he knew that I really couldn't afford.

2. He never wanted to do anything or go anywhere, but then would complain that he was bored and we never had any fun.

3. We would almost never have sex.

4. No matter what accomplishment I reached (losing 40 lbs, getting straight A's, graduating college, getting a full ride scholarship to law school) he would never act like it was a big deal, but anything good that happened to him was a "special occasion" that had to be celebrated.

5. He always had bad breath but would complain about other people's breath

6. He never wanted to make plans for the future, but then would be upset that he wasn't prepared for unforeseen circumstances.

7. He had real trouble being social or making friends, but would be jealous or upset that I had friends.

8. Considered himself a real outdoors kind of person and would act like I was lazy, even though I went to school full time, took care of the animals, cleaned the house, and did the majority of the cooking.

9. He would ignore me for days on end and then when he would be ready to talk, would get upset if I was then mad at his prior behavior.

10. Rarely complimented me, rarely said "I love you" first, and didn't like to be physically affectionate.

11. Acted like I was holding him back, but now that I am gone, he is doing less with his life than ever.

 

This is not even close to the reasons why he was awful, but it is pretty obvious that these are enough. I am not implying that I didn't have my own faults in the relationship but just reading over these few things is helping me not just remember the good times but to actually see why it might have been a good thing to break up. Maybe we really weren't right for each other and maybe I will be much better off without him.

 

What a douche!!!!

[may_girl]

I made a list of cons for my ex too, I refer to it every time I miss him. I was brutal with them, it completely turns me off every single time I read them to myself.

 

It's good because we take them off their unworthy pedestals when we make these lists, and realize they're not all that anyway

 

Keep referring to that list girlie!

[Seachelle1]

I did the same thing with my ex. I was putting him on a pedestal and when I wrote my list I remembered how many times I'd tried to break up with him and he'd pretended I hadn't said anything until I gave up. (silly, huh?) I was relieved after he broke up with me. Except for how his new person triggered trauma issues in me I've been happier without him. It's important to hold onto that truth. Your list sounds very similar to mine.

 

We'll all make it together. Each day will be a bit brighter.