emily22202 Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 We have known eachother for about 15 years. He has always liked me since High School (I was his crush). We found eachother on FaceBook. We started to date for the first time and really hit it off. We were in a serious relationship for about 6 months. He met my kids also. Long story short, I ofter would argue with him about dumb stuff. Finally a week ago he broke up with me. I have been calling him NON-STOP and TEXTING him non-stop for the past few days, asking him to please reconsider and lets work this out. His response is "No, Its over" he said "I love you and miss you alot but we are thru".... Finally this morning after i sent him, another text he says" STOP texting and calling me". So i said "ok". I have been reading online about the No Contact rule, I guess i have no choice but to try it now. Could it work?.
hinatticus Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 It will work to make you heal faster. It's not a trick to get someone back though. You have to stop text bombing him though. Give him his space otherwise you will keep pushing him away.
Author emily22202 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 I feel like he wont even realize i stopped contacting him. I feel like i always text him and call him to remind him of me. Weird i know.
amaysngrace Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Have you completely lost your mind? Why do you keep harassing him? Ugh there is nothing worse than a person who just won't let go. Six months is nothing if you've been married before which I'm assuming you were if you have children. Yes. Please go NC. Have some dignity. Please?
Author emily22202 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 Yes i was married for 10 years. Divorced for 4 years. I just am now looking at the NC stuff. I am going to give it a shot. And yup i know pathetic. I made myself look like a fool. Well i know one thing forsure when he wakes up tomorrow, It will be the end of any text messages from me. NO more. I am afraid he will forget about me if i dont text him, Is why i kept doing it.
todreaminblue Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 We have known eachother for about 15 years. He has always liked me since High School (I was his crush). We found eachother on FaceBook. We started to date for the first time and really hit it off. We were in a serious relationship for about 6 months. He met my kids also. Long story short, I ofter would argue with him about dumb stuff. Finally a week ago he broke up with me. I have been calling him NON-STOP and TEXTING him non-stop for the past few days, asking him to please reconsider and lets work this out. His response is "No, Its over" he said "I love you and miss you alot but we are thru".... Finally this morning after i sent him, another text he says" STOP texting and calling me". So i said "ok". I have been reading online about the No Contact rule, I guess i have no choice but to try it now. Could it work?. its is hard to let go when you care about someone, but you have to do it, when someone specifically asks you to stop calling and texting you should......out of respect......if it were reversed how would you feel?.... it makes things awkward and unpleasant for the person who is feeling harrassed....and probably feels guilt as well...break ups are never easy.....i feel for you and even though it is hard....he has made it clear where you stand with him...he wishes to go no contact and you dont have a choice...he has made his choice and it doesnt include talking to you....post on here when you feel like contacting him, delete his number out of your phone....and maintain silence...you will heal....it is going to just take a little time....hugs....deb
amaysngrace Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Yes i was married for 10 years. Divorced for 4 years. I just am now looking at the NC stuff. I am going to give it a shot. And yup i know pathetic. I made myself look like a fool. Well i know one thing forsure when he wakes up tomorrow, It will be the end of any text messages from me. NO more. I am afraid he will forget about me if i dont text him, Is why i kept doing it. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Well one thing is for certain. If you drop off the radar he will definitely know you are done too. Maybe he will change his mind and maybe he won't but right now his mind is set on one thing and whatever you're doing isn't working to change it so do something different and leave him alone. And remove him from your Facebook too.
Author emily22202 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 I think what is making me more crazy, is the fact that he "Doesnt want me anymore" and is "Ignoring me". One thing that drives me crazy is when someone ignores me, and he knows it.
amaysngrace Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 I think what is making me more crazy, is the fact that he "Doesnt want me anymore" and is "Ignoring me". One thing that drives me crazy is when someone ignores me, and he knows it. Would you rather be ignored or be a stalker? Because they are your choices.
Author emily22202 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 OMG am i really on stalker status lol?.
amaysngrace Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 OMG am i really on stalker status lol?. Yes. You are probably creeping him out and making him think really bad things of you. And most likely regretting ever hooking up with you. That's how it feels when someone just won't leave you alone despite you asking them nicely. It's awkward and annoying. 1
Author emily22202 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 Do you think i can reverse my stalker mode and do the NC and there may still, be hope?.
amaysngrace Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Do you think i can reverse my stalker mode and do the NC and there may still, be hope?. Maybe or maybe not but you know what you're currently doing isn't working so try something new and ignore him back. Do you know the definition of insanity? Try something new.
Author emily22202 Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 True, okay i will stop. Going to focus on working out and getting to my goal weight. I will not only do it for myself of course BUT i also cant wait for him to see the "New me"..He lives about 4 minutes from me BTW. 1
amaysngrace Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 True, okay i will stop. Going to focus on working out and getting to my goal weight. I will not only do it for myself of course BUT i also cant wait for him to see the "New me"..He lives about 4 minutes from me BTW. Good. Focus on yourself. Appreciate yourself because he doesn't and that, my dear, is his loss. Stay strong!!
Leigh 87 Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 I believe that: if a guy has strong enough feelings for you, ringing him incessantly after a break up will not change them. I have learnt from my own experience that: with love, if it is strong enough, you can... do pretty much anything besides cheating and abusing them, and they will not leave. At least at first haha. As in - I find that I can act like a bitch, fart, gain weight, and just generally be at my worst - AND call him too often and get insecure - and the guy still stays and loves me just as much. I do not do all of this often or even at all these days, but really.... if he truly had strong feelings for you, he would have surely TOLD you so, right? He would have said that he really cares about you and loves you still? I find it silly that a guy who truly loves you, will stop loving you if you call him too much once he breaks up with you? Surely true love is stronger than that? This is not to say that it is cool to incessantly call someone...anyone for that matter..
CorridorE Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 Do you think i can reverse my stalker mode and do the NC and there may still, be hope?. Yes, you definitely can. Contacting someone a lot after a breakup is understandable if you really loved them and shows some weaknesses, but once it gets you no where stopping and going strict NC will show you're capable of great strength. 1
selfsabotager Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I'm going through the same exact thing. 6 months of an intense relationship, kids involved, both have been married previously. Only I just found out he's been with his ex-g/f. I'm here for support. I have been 12 days of no contact, broke up for 26 days and he told me it was done and we would never be back together. This was after months of telling me we had a future, we were talking about moving in together and a marriage down the line. I feel your pain and it sucks. I'm flailing and this is by far the worst break-up I've ever experienced. Odd given the short amount of time together.
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