mach3 Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Hi Without going into a lot of detail - I recently found out that my ex (of 2.5 years) is having bad health problems. Really quite sad for someone her age. Her parents called me to let me know and I immediately went over, we had not seen each other in over a month. I think she is seeing someone else, but I cannot imagine not being by her side as she deals with this. We were quite serious, lived together for over a year. She began acting funny a little over a month ago and we have barely spoken. My question is - how should I handle this? I left her a message last night saying how much I loved and cared for her, that I would be there for her during this time. She has not called back - is this all I can do? I understand she is under a lot of stress and our relationship status is not a pertinent issue at the moment. I want to be there every step of the way - but I can't push too hard here. Do I just back off? I used to think the worst pain in the world was a broken heart and your ex being with someone else. But now I feel as if it's not being there for someone you love in a time of need. It's just killing me. Your thoughts?
MassiveAtom Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 I still find great wisdom in the serenity prayer. All you can do is let go of that support role you most likely played in her life. Express your compassion for her at this time, be kind and understanding, but what else CAN you do? More I think would be inviting the reopening of wounds that may not even be fully healed. Be careful my friend. Love is rough! mA
Author mach3 Posted September 24, 2004 Author Posted September 24, 2004 Thanks - I might not have been good at a lot of things, but I was damn good at crisis management and taking care of her. She knows that too. It's just eating away at me - to just watch and wonder...
MassiveAtom Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 Man, that is the worst. And then about someone you USED to be significant to. Argh, that's tangly. So you're feeling a bit helpless, huh? Was this a mutual break up? You sound like a really good guy. There are so few around these days. I fancy myself a good guy. My wife would probably agree but then point out my faults:) If I were in your position I think I would very confused. I know I still care about my exes, and sometimes really miss them. But I guess that's part of having a heartbeat you know?
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