DrunkenMonk Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Ok we have been dating for about a year and a half now. Anyway, ive tried to break up with her about 2 months ago, but because it was so painful for her i took her back. ( she kept calling me and crying and telling me how she cant sleep and how she loves me so much). Anyway, I know it makes me look bad but I know we arnt compatible, we are almost the exact opposite in many respects, and when we arnt worried about one of us breaking up with the other one, we just fight constantly. Anyway, I want to be alone! Ive got so many creative aspects of my life that I want to refine and go places with in life but she insists on us getting married and having kids in Hutchinson Kansas (my home town). Long story short I want, every moment now, to be single but Im such a empathetic person I dont want her to hurt as much as she will. Ive already tried just slowly making her not like me any more but that doesnt work, she sees right through it. Anyway eventually I am going to college and I figured I would just use that as an excuse to get away from her, but now shes talking about how we will be together after college (im going far far away and shes staying in Kansas). I dont want to just break up with her right before I go to college and I dont want to lead her on all the way through college and waste any more years of her life. Should I just grow some balls and not care about her feelings and be confident everything will be better in the long run??!!!?? SHE IS DRIVING ME CRAZY! HOW DO I BREAK UP WITH HER!!! (p.s. the last gf I had I was with for a year and I broke up with her. She cried and called me for 2 weeks straight and was the worst time of my life. Also she tried to commit suicide and I had to call the police, so I guess you could say im not to confident in breaking up with girls anymore) THANKS ALL!
YellowLioness Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 who can take responsibility for her actions. If she tries to commit suicide, then it's her choice. You are being weak by not breaking up with her. You are ruining your life for a woman you don't even like, anymore. It's not fair to either you, or her, to continue this charade. Also, you are both young. When you go to college, you will find other girls to amuse you. Even if you stay wtih her, it will come to the point where she will be such a burden to you that you won't even care how you have to get rid of her. Break it off while you still care enough to do it nicely. Also, she has an obsession with you. This is not healthy, and it is not normal. As young as you both are, she should not even be considering marriage. You are letting her plan out your whole life. She should probably consider therapy. Why are you letting her do this? Why aren't you putting your foot down? I really don't understand why you'd let someone run over you like this. It's only a relationship to her. It's an annoyance to you.
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