finnishgal Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 hi there....i am new to this, so bear with me. I have been dating the same guy now for 4.5 years. The first 1.5 years of that was a long distance relationship until I moved to be with him. We just moved in together about a 9 months ago and it seems like things are never going to be the same. We argue all of the time...about how the housework should be done....who does more dishes....who works harder. If I don't do things exactly the way he says I should do them, he gets mad. If I want him to go to a family function with me, he won't. So, I go alone (which sometimes I don't mind). He argues that he doesn't force me to go anywhere with him if I don't want to. He is 11 years older than I am and has never been married.....I'm just wondering if things will ever be ok, or if I should just throw in the towel. He's a very nice guy when he wants to be and we enjoy spending time together and both enjoy hunting and the outdoors, but I feel like I need more from him. I don't think that we should be arguing about the immaterial things (like the housework). I just want the little things, like a date (other than the hunting and outdoors - although I love that stuff), I want to get a kiss in the a.m. before work and a hello and a kiss at night when he comes home from work. He complains that I am the one that has changed and is one sided and wants everything my way. What do we do here? I feel like we are in a rut - always arguing about the same opinions, but never getting anywhere. I would really like to see this relationship work, but if it can't, what do I do? I'm 28 and feel like this clock is ticking!
netrie Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Originally posted by finnishgal We just moved in together about a 9 months ago and it seems like things are never going to be the same. We argue all of the time... [color=brown] NUMBER ONE RULE: never live/shack-up with anyone you want to spend the rest of your life with----especially if you plan on marrying. [/color] Get out!
Wolvesbaned Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Throw in the towel It doesn't seem like he even acknowledges the fact that you're unhappy. Walk away and find someone that'll love to kiss you in the morning and kiss you at night. You deserve more! Be glad you're not married to him. Good luck to you!
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