Amaronda Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Sorry this is lengthy, but I need to get it off my chest. Earlier this year, I became interested in a guy in one of my classes. So we started texting a lot and became pretty good friends. He was going through a post breakup thing (even though she wasn't labeled as his girlfriend) and I tried to help him by first getting her back and then trying to help him move on. So 4 months after we start talking, he confesses that he likes me and asks if I want to try a relationship with him. I wasn't exactly elated, but I agreed because I thought that this was what I wanted (I liked him this whole time) and I thought I could support him better as a girlfriend. 3 months into a very slow relationship (partly due to my fears of intimacy), I broke up with him because of recent issues I felt had come up and the fact that I thought he was going to break up with me. I told him we should be friends, and he accepted it well. Unfortunately, I was a bit shocked afterwards and we didn't talk for a week. After we made contact again, I wanted to try friends with benefits (because the label of boyfriend-girlfriend somehow freaks me out). We did that for a few days until he suddenly had a whole change of heart and told me he didn't want to do it anymore and just go back to being normal friends. I was kind of confused and furious for a bit and acted irrationally, telling him that I don't even want to be friends. The weeks after that I spent cooling down and feeling sorry for myself. Now, about 2 months later, I am repaired and ready to fix things. When we were still dating, we promised each other to stay friends even after breaking up. Well, I obviously broke that promise- but I want to fix it! I just don't know how, and I'm terrified to talk to him again. I don't even want to get back together as a couple, I just want him back as a friend. Please help.
moore Posted May 3, 2013 Posted May 3, 2013 I went though that same thing myne was a little more deep though but my advice is to follow your heart go in thinking im going to do this becuase I want to and if h rejects me than atleast I tried becuase you cant blame a girl for trying. no go read. y thread I did the same thing you did its about how I pushed him away then I wanted to make things right i used diffrent names though .. tell me what you think
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