lil hoodlum Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 I was recently told my a mutual friend that my ex said I should fight for her. Break up was 11 months ago to the day. I like to hear some opinions on how you would "fight" for an ex.
96nole Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Is she fighting for you? If she is expecting you to fight for her, but she will not fight for you, make sure she remains "the ex". 1
Keenly Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 11 months and she still demands your attention and your "fighting" for her? What exactly has this woman done for you?
Author lil hoodlum Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 What has your contact been up to this point? We are co-workers. Very limited contact. Occasional contact where we have talked about personal details of our lives. As of late, none. She has had a history of showing interest in me, and I of course, would reciprocate. With in a week to week-and-half, she allways would go cold on me again. The last time she showed interest in me was about a month ago. This time I didn't fall for her ploy. (i.e. wanting attention)
Author lil hoodlum Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 Is she fighting for you? If she is expecting you to fight for her, but she will not fight for you, make sure she remains "the ex". Truthfully, no, she is not fighting for me. In fact, by her actions, she ignores me and shows no consideration for me. I as of last Sunday had finally told myself that she does not care and is not coming back. Next day, Monday, I was told she still loves me and wants me to fight for her. I'm confused.?>! Basically, she walked away from a 4.5 year relationship. I never saw it coming. I am a great guy and loved her and her daughter very much. Never communicated with me that she had "issues" about me. She flat out ignored me, acted as if I didn't exist, and shut me out. She made it very clear to me by her actions that she wanted me out of her life. I didn't deserve that kind of treatment.
Author lil hoodlum Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 11 months and she still demands your attention and your "fighting" for her? What exactly has this woman done for you? Of course during the 11 months she has done very little for me. I still love her and her daughter very much. I don't think I will ever love anyone else as deeply and completely as these two. Sure, I could fall in love again with someone else but in my mind, I will allways think back and wonder about her. I have put my heart on the line several times for her. Only to be blown off or ignored. I love her enough to let her go. To me, she is the one. I know the one for me shouldn't treat others like this, but I am a realize that people do make mistakes. I know that I have done alot worse myself in past relationships and still got a second chance.
Author lil hoodlum Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 I know what we had was special. I am a great guy and did not deserve the kind of treatment that I have received. I also understand that like all relationships things change and there are areas where there could be improvement. Open and honest communication definitely is something that needs to be address for this to even have a shot of being successful. I don't know how to read minds yet! I'm not going to lie to anyone, I didn't deserve to be treated like this. She should be fighting for me. I don't have a problem fighting for what I want, but she needs to crack open the door. I'm not just going to put my heart on a platter and just serve it to her just for her to stomp on it or blow me off again. Blast me if you want, I know I'm a fool. However, I will not just blindly charge in with reckless abondonment "fighting" for her. My heart and emotions are not something to frivously toy with. In my heart, this is a make or break situation.
thefooloftheyear Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Quite simply It just shouldnt be that hard.....Period...Either you are in or out. TFY
96nole Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 I know what we had was special. I am a great guy and did not deserve the kind of treatment that I have received. I also understand that like all relationships things change and there are areas where there could be improvement. Open and honest communication definitely is something that needs to be address for this to even have a shot of being successful. I don't know how to read minds yet! I'm not going to lie to anyone, I didn't deserve to be treated like this. She should be fighting for me. I don't have a problem fighting for what I want, but she needs to crack open the door. I'm not just going to put my heart on a platter and just serve it to her just for her to stomp on it or blow me off again. Blast me if you want, I know I'm a fool. However, I will not just blindly charge in with reckless abondonment "fighting" for her. My heart and emotions are not something to frivously toy with. In my heart, this is a make or break situation. There's no reason for you to get blasted. You're not a fool. You were together 4.5 years She just left without warning She's interested then not interested she dumped you and wants you to fight for her Find the other man or men and you'll see why she left. Some other guy was "fighting" for her. She likes stringing you along to feed her ego. Meanwhile, she's most likely stringing along some other guys as well. She left. Her loss. Don't keep playing her game. Let other guys feed her ego and play her game.
crederer Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 She likes the ego boost of having multiple men fighting for her. I'd be insulted. You either want to be with me, or someone else. After 4 years especially, I mean it'd be one thing if you had only been on a few dates or something. Yea, then you may have some competition that you have to out do. But jesus man.....
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