Jadedbyluv Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Ok so I know every relationship progresses differently. I know that no two relationships are going to be the same. But generally speaking, if you have been dating someone for over 3 months what should you expect? I've only been in one serious relationship in my life if you can call it that. I don't know what's normal. I don't know what normal communication or anything.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 You can't expect anything, communication is how you find the answer. Along with trusting your gut instinct. Now, some people are afraid to ask certain questions and don't want to know the answer, even though they already do. And others don't want to "jeopardize" anything by being preemptive and making clear you intentions or communicating them and finding out if you're on the same page, instead you just "see where it goes". After a 3 month period now you're wondering "what we are", then it's usually not a progressive relationship. Progressive relationships typically involve serious and clear intent and communication/expression. If it just feels like nothing is changing/happening/evolving and everything is just static, then the man is usually happy with things the way they are and will require/desire nothing more to change. In which case you'll start to probe and bring up serious conversation and the man will back pedal, because at the stage he's recognizing your desire to progress and now the "fun" part is over and becoming more "serious". If you just stand/sit there and do nothing, then you leave your fate in the hands of the man, in which as you may recognize from many posts on LS, isn't the sure way to get a commitment or to make your intentions clear. It's usually an excellent way to get strung along and think that something more emotionally significant is occurring than there actually is. You'll just find yourself questioning his actions/behavior, being "confused" and then ultimately investing more and more "hoping" it is a progressive relationship. This advice is geared towards the assumption that you are a woman, if you are man it's usually/typically very black and white.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 At 3 months, I would expect full commitment and no uncertainty. We are bf/gf and spend most of our free time together.
amazingdrummer Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 I got the same question. I'm looking toward to my 3 month dating "anniversary" and I feel quite confused. We became bf/gf after the first date, we met each other's friends and hang out with them many times. We spent just like every single minutes with each other... And I felt like I've known him for years. After a very short time being with each other, I have to start thinking about how to refresh the relationship for we don't know what to do next.:sick:
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