naievus Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I've been going out with my GF for 2.5 years and we have been through a lot, she has supported me a lot and I took her for granted. The first year and a half were amazing and then my parents got divorced and multiple other uncontrollable things made me very depressed and alone. I kept pushing her away. Now recently after a petty argument (we never really argued I was just distant towards her), she said she wanted to break up. This is my first long term relationship (im 23) and I took it badly pleading with her to take me back and that I will change (which I have done). I bought her flowers and everything. Ever since she has been talking/texting me but seems distant. We have been going on regular walks twice a week and I get a hug at the end. She is going away for 3 months (To a really remote area - so her getting with somebody isn't playing too much on my mind yet) and 2 days after she split with me she promised she wouldn't). I just don't know what to do and I am so sorry and have told her so, we had planned our lives out together and everyone thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together (like I did and perhaps was a reason why I took her for granted as I thought she would never leave me). I have serious exams coming up and cannot concentrate or stop thinking about her and I am desperate to be with her. Please help me out
kool Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I feel for you. I'm in the same spot as you. I got out of a relationship of 4 years and now he won't even respond to me. I think you should tell her how you feel and remove contact from her for a while so she can start to miss you again. If you just want to be her friend than continue to see her like you do. But if you can't handle just being friends than tell her and allow her to think about it. Hope it works
Author naievus Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 Thank you, she said she wanted to get to know me again as a friend and maybe then go out with me again. I could not take just being her friend though, it would eat me up inside. I'd bought her surprise tickets to a theme park a few months ago for the end of May and only told her yesterday and seems like she will go with me. I'm so confused and helpless, all I know is I want her in my arms again.
number122 Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 (edited) Sorry mate, you lost her. Completly. She will never come back to you, not to mention she is just toying with you right now. It feeds her ego and releases her guilt. She is doing it for HERSELF. Her own self. Not for you. Go NC. FULL NC! Seriously, for like 6 months. Never respond to her, never call her, delete her from every place you can. This woman has no feelings for you anymore and only wants to use you to move over her own feelings. She may have GIGS, probably already found another guy (my ex was the same...). She just didn't tell you about him. Maybe she didn't even cheat with him, just talking. That's enough for a woman. They are like that. Walk away with pride, I know it hurts. I just lost my gf too, a month ago. We had a 3 year rs. Cry as much as you can, that will help. Once again, never ever answer her, see her profile and call her or whatever. Cut out all communications. I do not advice to continue the relationship. She will only grow colder and more distant. I experienced it myself. Trust me. Walk away and start to build your own happiness, your own life. Oh, and another tipp: There's no such thing as the 'one'. Start to think like this. Edited May 2, 2013 by number122
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