AverageCat Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Long time I haven't been here. Felt like writing today and what better place than this. So long story short, things are going amazing with my new gf. We're literally in honeymoon period. However I seem to not be able to let go of the past. We got together after being FWBs for almost a year. Sometime during that year she got together with an old friend of hers. He was giving her more attention and they both fell for each other. However he lived on the other side of the country so it was long distance. Now I am not sure how serious they were, but I know they were "in love" with one another (I know the guy too). After a year of FWB me and this girl got closer and when I got to know about her feelings for the other guy I started seeing her more often because I wanted her to be mine. After a few months she eventually distanced off herself from the other guy. He cheated on her and then we got together in a relationship. Now every once in a while I keep thinking that at the time, I was sleeping with her, cuddling with her, she was thinking about this other man and having sex online with him... and she was kind of playing us both at some point... She seems like a really good girl and I know she's mine 100% right now, but sometimes I get this feeling that she didn't really want this (since I was the one to push mostly and she basically just went with it) and maybe I was just the backup plan...
pbjbear Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I would let it go. Especially if your relationship is amazing. You were just FWB's, its wrong to have expected her to only focus on you when there was no commitment involved. When you were FWB, were you sleeping with and talking to other girls? If you were, she could be saying this about you too. A guy who uses a girl as a FWB is essentially saying "I like you enough to fu** you but not enough to commit" so you dont have alot of room to talk. Dont judge her for doing what you did. If shes a good girl like you say, you've got nothing to worry about. Be thankful this guy is long distance, it could be worse. 1
Archgirl Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 You always do this Cat, torture yourself with the idea she doesn't really care. I don't know how many times I am going to have to tell you to stop making yourself crazy by looking for things that are wrong just when everything is going right! She chose you. She's with you. The bonds you have formed have been formed in a relationship and over a longer period of time than her infatuation with the other dude. You are the main guy in a honeymoon period. Please try to stop making things go wrong in your head. When trouble actually occurs, deal with it then - this allows you to enjoy your good times as they are the defence against the bad. Its great to see you again - but you know the drill: Harden up Sunshine
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