Sierra6593 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Hi all! I am sure many have titled their post in similar fashion, but I think I need a kick in the butt in terms of advice. I am at a loss for words/ideas. I was hooking up with a girl and spending a lot of time with her for 3 months. Each week that went by i felt like we were getting closer. We did all things that a couple would do,..i.e. hold hands, go out to dinner, have sex, etc etc, mind you she would initiate a lot of this. She would send me cutesy pictures, initiate texting/conversation etc etc. After doing this for a long time and feeling that she was definitely into me, ( she would speak of doing things in the future with me ), i felt the need to tell her i needed to know where i stood with her. To which she responded that she isnt ready for a relationship and isnt in the right place for a relationship right now. To which I responded that it was nice getting to know her and i would see her around (oops?) .Anyway, i am wondering how it can go from her messaging me calling me honey,boo, baby, etc etc and doing all things relative to a relationship,..to this? And what should i do? Should i play it off like i dont care? Here is some further info. This girl has mostly guy friends, this might seem threatening to some but literally all of her guy friends are wimpy types. I am the exact opposite. Tall, goodlooking, muscular and intelligent. Brains and brawn. There is a history however of these guys buying her things like she is a queen. Effectively making themselves a subspecies of man and somewhat of a doormat. Now i am rambling. Anyway, HELP!! lol
pbjbear Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 You dont want to date a woman that wants you to be a doormat. So it is a red flag that all her guy friends treat her like a queen. There isnt much you can do about convincing her to be with you. She doesnt like you enough to be your girlfriend, perhaps she likes the attention but doesnt want to commit or has reservations about you. Most of the time when someone says they dont want a relationship it means they dont want one with YOU. You didnt do anything wrong, though, so dont take it personally this just wasnt meant to be. I would act like you dont care and move on. If she tries to reel you in and get attention from you ignore her.
Author Sierra6593 Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 damn are people this fickle, Its hard to believe she doesnt like me when she spends the nights with me, is all over me etc. I think she does have a hang up on an ex who once and awhile comes back into her life to manipulate her. Should i totally walk away or just play the game now?
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