big bear Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Ok it's a rocky history but it's besides the point. Broke up long ago. A poster described me a long time ago as unfaithful and what not. I admitted to that and left her alone a long back too. Have hooked up a couple of times with others but not had a relationship. Been NC too a long time. Suddenly, today she messages: Hi, how are you. Just felt like talking to you. And it was like my heart stopped a minute. I immediately deleted the message. This would be the first breadcrumb in like an eternity. No, I am not gonna reply but it caused a certain amount of anguish. Does it mean I am still not over her?
mutant Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I don't know your story but seems you are still not over your ex. Reminds me of the day I received a a text from the ex wishing me a merry Christmas. I was shocked and deleted the damn text immediately. Same thing happened when she tried calling me a few months ago but I ignored her damn call. Don't reply to the text, there is absolutely nothing to gain by contacting her. Stick to NC! People here on LS have diverse points of view and you should take any advice offered with a pinch of salt. If someone here described you as being unfaithful you shouldn't be worked up over it, not after such a long time. However, if that is true, it's upon you to work on your mistakes so that they don't affect future relationships.
crederer Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 How long has it been? It's pretty normal. I don't really believe in no contact for the most part (time to heal and not act irrationally or do something youd regret is fine to use NC). I actually feel better speaking to her on occasion. However, if it makes you feel this way staying NC sounds the best for you.
Jbum5 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 For you, out-of-sight, out-of-mind applies. And time has also blunted the pain. But you are still not over her yet. The fact that her text caused you to post here is already proof. Distract yourself more and let time, the healing process, continue to pass.
Author big bear Posted May 6, 2013 Author Posted May 6, 2013 So, I shrugged advances from a new girl. She was looking for a relationship and the turmoil a single text caused, makes me feel that I am still not ready for a relationship. This is the first breadcrumb in like a million years. Almost got me. I don;t believe she did this with any sinister motive but it really f*cked me up. For a minute I was like she wants to be back. But then I thought, been down this road far too many times. The last time I spoke to her she said very clearly even though I do not harbor any resentment against you, but I never want to be in a relationship with you. BTW, did not break NC.
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