Dudesmobile Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 (edited) Is there a way to convince my friends that my girlfriend is good? My girlfriend is the most amazing person in the world yet my friends don't like her just because we don't hangout with them and they think she's a bad person. They think she's changing me and that she's no good for me. I keep telling them that they r wrong but there's no winning with my friends. I am having my girlfriend meet my mom Friday and were going to dinner so I hope my moms can spread the word that she's good. People are butting into our relationship and think I'm getting taken for a ride when its not that at all. We want to take it at our own pace and were not in a rush or anything. We hangout almost everyday, text everyday and call everyday. People need to be happy for me and stop worrying. I've been together with this girl for a year and were exclusive but havnt made our relationship public. Edited May 1, 2013 by Dudesmobile
pbjbear Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Can you elaborate on why they think she is a bad person and how they feel you are changing? Its hard to tell based off on your vagueness of the situation
MidwestUSA Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 These people are not your friends. Get a new social circle. Why don't you "hang out" with them when you and your girl are together? What are they basing their dislike of her on?
xpaperxcutx Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Why are you guys exclusive for a year but haven't made your relationship specific?This can be a factor for why your friends may think you are being taken for a ride.
Author Dudesmobile Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 (edited) They say she's using me when they have never met her and they find it odd that we don't want to hangout with them. Most of these people who r saying this are my brothers friends and they are being dumb and jealous because I finally found someone who loves me for me and hangs out with me almost everyday, calls me and texts me and is interested in me. They don't want me to be happy and I can't get rid of them because they all live close. I've stopped hanging out with them but I want them to die and go away We want to make sure the relationship lasts and we both agreed to make it public when we r ready. FYI both our families know we r seeing each other. Edited May 1, 2013 by Dudesmobile
BoneyHadger Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Two very different possibilities: 1. They feel neglected by you and rambling. 2. They are spot on and your gf will indeed end up using you. Which one is it? Can't tell over the net, esp. having never met them. I'm sure you'll find out eventually.
MidwestUSA Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Difficult to give a serious reply to someone who wishes others would die. How old are you?
Author Dudesmobile Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 Two very different possibilities: 1. They feel neglected by you and rambling. 2. They are spot on and your gf will indeed end up using you. Which one is it? Can't tell over the net, esp. having never met them. I'm sure you'll find out eventually. I think its option 1. Id know if it was option 2. im not that dumb and weve been together strongly for a year. She calls me everyday, texts me everyday and we see each everyday. I'm 22.
StanMusial Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I don't understand the nature of your relationship. You say it's not public but apparently people know, and these people do NOT approve. I have to say given the limited information this does not look to be a good situation. Maybe mom can help you figure it out. Let us know what she says.
pbjbear Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 I think its option 1. Id know if it was option 2. im not that dumb and weve been together strongly for a year. She calls me everyday, texts me everyday and we see each everyday. I'm 22. Its still hard to tell based on what you have written. It might be because you are neglecting your friends now that you have a girlfriend. I know I really dont like it when my girlfriends drop off the grid once they get a boyfriend and come back expecting to hang out all the time when they break up. When I date, I make time for both. It may also be because they feel you arent getting what you deserve (based on the long term dating without commitment and not wanting to take it public...that would be a red flag to me. She could be using you or embarassed of you) based on what you said. It could be jealousy. Really Id need more info to give a better answer. 1
Estate Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 Is there a way to convince my friends that my girlfriend is good? My girlfriend is the most amazing person in the world yet my friends don't like her just because we don't hangout with them and they think she's a bad person. They think she's changing me and that she's no good for me. I keep telling them that they r wrong but there's no winning with my friends. I am having my girlfriend meet my mom Friday and were going to dinner so I hope my moms can spread the word that she's good. People are butting into our relationship and think I'm getting taken for a ride when its not that at all. We want to take it at our own pace and were not in a rush or anything. We hangout almost everyday, text everyday and call everyday. People need to be happy for me and stop worrying. I've been together with this girl for a year and were exclusive but havnt made our relationship public. I have many friends like you and both them and their girlfriends act like complete dicks... ignoring friends... and rubbing the relationship in everyones face like they are the most important people in the world now. Wait until you two break up and you want to see your friends all the time again... I hope for your sake they are forgiving. It's not your friends fault... it's either you being a ****ty friend or your girlfriend making you be a ****ty friend so either way they are right to dislike it.
veggirl Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Why don't you and your girl hang out with your friends? If everyone knows you are together then you are PUBLIC hello.
Buttercup84 Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 My friend is dating a douche and none of us like him, but we tolerate him. To her, he is perfect. What do they not like ? While they could be very wrong about her, sometimes people on the outside see things more clear. Do you make time for them too ?
Leigh 87 Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 I know how you feel. Sort of. My boyfriends best friends hated me, because I am not attractive and I was shy and a little different to them, due to my background. They told him he could do better; they also made fun of how I looked among themselves. Needless to say, he is no longer friends with them. He ditched his so called "good friends" of 6 years, and chose ME to spend his life with. In the end, do what makes you happiest.
Mr. Nibbles Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 were going to dinner so I hope my moms can spread the word that she's good. I'm sure that both of your moms will like her. 1
amazingdrummer Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Question: Did you really like your friends before you met that girl?
amaysngrace Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Bros before hoes. You sound like you've fallen under the power of the p spell. They probably don't see the change in you as a positive one. But everyone has an opinion. So be it. Go get laid.
Author Dudesmobile Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 I'm sure that both of your moms will like her. I meant mom lol not moms sorry for the typo
crederer Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 In my experiences, the friends are usually pretty right about it but you're wrapped up in it and don't see it from an outside perspective.
PogoStick Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Young guys mess up and end up leashed to their GF. You text,talk and see her EVERYDAY. She may be fine but either way you're neglecting your friends.
Estate Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 It's just plain not right to ignore your friends because you have a girlfriend. You are being a ****ty friend. You don't see it... my own "friends" don't see it but if/when this girl ends up breaking up with you (you're young, it will happen) don't be surprised when your feelings change about your friends, you want them back and they want nothing to do with you anymore.
Kamille Posted May 2, 2013 Posted May 2, 2013 Why don't you and your girl hang out with your friends? If everyone knows you are together then you are PUBLIC hello. I had the same question. Why aren't you and your girlfriend hanging out with your friends? This usually happens in most relationship and might make your friends less likely to judge your relationship negatively.
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