Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 So there's this really cute guy that I kinda work with. By kind of that means that I work at one hospital, he works at another. My job entails going over to his hospital to his department about once or twice a week. We haven't really talked. I mean, he's carried my boxes for me, but then again that's his job. We haven't talked about anything except where to put my boxes he's carrying and me saying thank you to him. How would I go about asking him out? Would it be weird to just go up to him and start talking to him like I know him or something? How do I get his attention?
YellowLioness Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 or whatever it is that you all do where you are. :-) You seem like a cool girl, just let that shine through. Be like, Hey, I have gotten everything done I need to for hte week, so I have some extra time. Do you wanna (grab or go to) (dinner, a movie, coffee)?
Author Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 But I don't know anything about him. I don't know where he lives, if he has a girlfriend, if he thinks I'm attractive. If he turns me down, I'll see him twice a week for the next year. That's humiliation for you. I don't know if I'm pretty enough to be that forward, you know?
YellowLioness Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 You're a pretty girl. Just ask him. So what if you do have to see him again?
loveregardless Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 you could just try talking to him first and then once you get to know him a little better you can deal with his dating potential...and talking to a guy is easy, you're a pretty girl, just smile and say "hello"...
Author Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 Well, the problem with seeing him again after the rejection is just that...the rejection. I'm afraid he'll be like "hey, there's that loser who actually asked me out and I turned her down." He could also tell everyone in his department and that would be even worse. I've tried the saying hello thing. It never gets past that. I can't think of a single topic to bring up that wouldn't seem completely out of the blue.
tiki Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Originally posted by loveregardless you could just try talking to him first LOL OMG I thought it said STALKING, not TALKING. Does he act interested in you? Are you the type to ask a guy out (have you done it before)? You don't want to wait until he makes the first move?
Author Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 How do you know if a guy likes you? I have asked a guy out before, but he had a girlfriend. Well, I guess it wasn't asking him out, I just asked if he had a girlfriend. But we had talked before, we went to college together. But it was always weird after that and we didn't really talk again. The first move? This has been an ongoing thing for almost a month now. If he's planning on making a move then he moves with the speed of a special olympics hurdler. Maybe he doesn't know that I like him. I don't think I outwardly act interested in him. I mean, I don't stare at him, drape myself over him and definately not stalking him?
tiki Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Ok stalking him would get his attention. Asking him if he digs coffee or cappucino would be fine I'd think.
Author Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 Yeah, stalking would get his attention. The cops attention also......
tiki Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Well hell, at least he'd know your name. ...Sorry, having way too much fun with this
Author Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Author Posted September 22, 2004 I think he knows my name. Everytime i go over to his hospital I have to call his department to ask if my boxes are in. He always answers the phone. He's probably sick of hearing me by now. I've wondered if I stared at the back of his head hard enough he would notice me. Would that work
gd1039 Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Regret is worse than rejection. Try opening up the conversation by asking him a question. Anything would work, ask if there is anywhere good u can grab a bite on your way abck to your hospital because you are hungry. Ask him if they have been busy and then lead into some story about something that happened at your place. If I were him I would be thrilled if you showed interested and opened up the conversation. He may be shy and thinking the same thing you are....
Author Jilly10340 Posted September 23, 2004 Author Posted September 23, 2004 Asking if they've been busy is a pretty good idea. That's not too indepth or nosy. Hey, thanks! I think I can manage that one.
BigPapa Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 By your looks and smile, you shouldn't have a problem. Here is a way you can approach the situation (Coming from a guys perspective) After he gets your boxes and what not say something like, "You're always so helpful and makes me more welcome here" not really in that context but to the effect of that you enjoy going there and him always helping you and you appreciate it. Or say something like, "It's always a pleasure seeing you" something to start a conversation.. I might not be making any sense but I'm sure it's not you who is shy by that smile..
Author Jilly10340 Posted September 23, 2004 Author Posted September 23, 2004 Ahhhh, thanks that so nice of you... I'm not sure what you meant by that last sentence but I think it was a compliment? Thanks for the advice. Why can't I think of these things on my own. My mind becomes a total blank when i'm not sure if the guy likes me or not.
BigPapa Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Originally posted by Jilly10340 Ahhhh, thanks that so nice of you... I'm not sure what you meant by that last sentence but I think it was a compliment? Thanks for the advice. Why can't I think of these things on my own. My mind becomes a total blank when i'm not sure if the guy likes me or not. What I meant by the last part is that he's probably afraid if anything to ask you by your beautiful looks. Now I've been w/my girl for almost a yr now and I've known her for over 2 yrs now but we met at work and I always thought you was gorgeous but didn't know what to say to her ever, it always started off at "How are you today", "How are things going today" just little things to spark conversations but didn't have the guts to ask her out but when she heard I had broke up w/the girl I was seeing at the time she actually had told someone else to give me her # and actually asked her out to see a movie the next day I saw her at work. But she was very nervous coming to work that day.. what I'm getting at is from a guys standpoint, if your a good looking girl..it sometimes is intimidating and you always think they're taken already.. you will have to start it off if you want to ask him out so just bring up that you were wondering if he had any plans for that night or this week if he would like to have coffee or dinner. But I know in the heat of the moment, words just don't come out or come out right.. good luck!
faux Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 This man may not work in the same hospital building as you, but I'm willing to bet you are employed by nearly the same agency. Mixing it up with co-workers is hardly ever a good idea. If something ever goes wrong, you have no choice but to see this man at work on a regular basis.
Author Jilly10340 Posted September 23, 2004 Author Posted September 23, 2004 No, our two hospitals are completely unaffiliated. The connection is that I'm doing research at three different hospitals so I have to go over there to collect research from medical charts.
manofmystrey Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Jilly U are very pretty. Heck if I was the guy and u asked me out I would flattered and I love to go out with u. As for asking the guy out, I can tell u this that guys like gals are also a little scard and love when a woman apporaches him. I What u can do is when he carrying ur boxes for u just ask him if he is not to busy if he would like to get some coffee, ur way of saying thank u for him helping u. That way u are at the hospital and u can get to know each other and its a date but not a date. Cause if he is at work he too will be a little more easy or comfy. That way while u are having coffee u can talk to him and see where it goes from there. Best of luck.
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