mramey92 Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 She hates herself. She hates everything she has come to be. Our long term relationship went downhill and she allowed someone else into her life. She hid things from me in fear of losing me. She still does. I know she loves me. Maybe shes no longer in love and is afraid to tell me that because everything we had now seems broken. If so, then so be it, thats life. She says that although she wants to be young now and have fun, that she always knew I was the one. Is this possible? I know she hates herself for the lies she has inside of her, and I see them eating her up. I know she is trying to convince herself that this is just major bump in the road for us, but I feel she only says things like that to make her feel better about any lie. Maybe she fell in love again but won't allow herself to follow it because she feels terrible about what happened between us. But for some reason she continues to come back to me. Maybe she has lies inside of her that hurt her so much when she is alone, that holding me makes them go away temporarily. Like a drug. I just want her to know I love her unconditionally. Ill always be there for her, I dont care who shes with or how she doesnt feel about me. I know how I feel about her, and thats enough to let her love her life without feeling bad about me or anyone. I just want to help her move on with her life It just starts with the truth. I just want her to know it breaks me down seeing how much all of this hurts her. Lies will only continue to hurt her. The truth shall set her free.
TaraMaiden Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 She's your ex, isn't she? What she does, is not your concern. What you do - how you move on - is. Forget her, focus on you. Oh.... You haven't dumped her yet?? Why the hell not - ?!?
Author mramey92 Posted May 1, 2013 Author Posted May 1, 2013 She's your ex, isn't she? What she does, is not your concern. What you do - how you move on - is. Forget her, focus on you. Oh.... You haven't dumped her yet?? Why the hell not - ?!? We are broken up. But I love her unconditionally. She still feels major pain about all of this. I just want to help her move on. Ill feel bad about it if shes feeling bad. Once shes happy with herself again, then I can be happy with myself.
TaraMaiden Posted May 1, 2013 Posted May 1, 2013 No, you don't love her unconditionally. Because you 'want' things for her. To Love unconditionally, you have to let them be, let them go, let them live according to their choices. You can no more desire something for her than you can engineer it, because she has to want it just as much, for herself. You have to let her go, and let her be. Be there for her if she needs you, but remember that to support her in the way she needs, you have to practise Wise Compassion, not Idiot Compassion. Wise Compassion encourages sensible independence. Idiot Compassion enables crippling stagnation..... 1
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